Whoever said Reality TV was a waste of time never tried to demonstrate a concept about passive aggression! The 3/25/10 episode of VH-1's Sober House with Dr. Drew shows so many great concepts from The Angry Smile (www.lsci.org). Watch House Manager Jennifer Jimenez get caught up in Conflict Cyle after Conflict Cycle!

Here is the link to VH-1's website. The clip I have in mind starts about 39 min into the show:

http://www.vh1.com/video/sober-house-with-dr-drew/full-episodes/episode-3/1634526/playlist.jhtml

Watch former NBA star Dennis Rodman engage Jennifer in a passive aggressive showdown. She insists that he write a 150-word essay on why he (and other housemates) are sabotaging their recovery. His response: writing the word "why" on a piece of paper precisely 150 times. Intentional inefficiency in action!

When it is time for Jennifer to collect the essay, she comes at Dennis guns-blazing: yelling, threatening, dropping F-bombs, etc. Dennis remains calm throughout, clearly amused at her escalating anger...classic passive aggressive conflict brewing! As if to confirm, in the midst of her one-woman rant, Dennis says (with an angry smile), "I want to see how mad you really get!"

And that's all just the icing on the cake. The preface to all of this is a passive aggressive war of words about Dennis giving his cell phone to Jennifer as a consequence for breaking curfew.

Check it out. It is Passive Aggressive Conflict Cycle 101.

And by the way, when is Dr. Drew going to teach Jennifer how to get herself OUT of this kind of no-win battle? Staff training in effectively responding to Passive Aggressive behavior would be useful...if I do say so myself.

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