At my daughter’s 4th birthday party, a friend of mine lamented that it must have been easier to be a parent a few decades ago. Parenting today is like being the activity and entertainment director on a cruse ship. It seems like the boat will sink if the kids have five minutes of unscheduled down time. No playdate, no gymnastics, no theater class—chaos!
The parents of preschoolers I know are much more concerned about their children being socialized (learning to share, getting along with the group, etc.) than with the value of alone time for their kids. Play dates trump independent play any day.
Sometimes the activities also serve to give the parent a breather during a long day, which is important, but that can be achieved through independent play as well.
For the child, alone time is essential in the development of an authentic self. Children need time to free play, daydream, be creative, and discover who they are. This cannot be achieved hopping from one organized activity to another.
Kids need to be armed with some knowledge of who they are, before their peer group and social media defines it for them. So while the socialization process is immensely important, parents shouldn’t forget about what alone time can do for their children.
The following are ways to help your little ones get some alone time: