There's a story lingering in the news that has my head twisted into a knot. You may have heard about it. A woman. Her name is Ines Sainz and she is a smokin' hot sportscaster... and by the looks of the way she dresses, she knows it and she needs the rest of the world to know it too. That aside, apparently, she was in the NY Jets locker room when one of the players made what have now been classified as "chauvinistic comments." It has to be a joke, because Sainz herself said that she, "'never heard something sexual'" from the players, but did say that one of them called her a bonita senorita, which means pretty lady.  That's harassment?

An article in The Daily News shortly after the "incident" quotes Sainz as saying that she was going to avoid the locker room immediately thereafter because she didn't want to, "be the focus." Bulls**t. Has anyone noticed what this woman wears to work? It's laughable, in a Jessica Rabbit caricature sort of way.

What also stunned me was that she said such behavior from the players "is not acceptable." What?  This is utter lunacy. What about her behavior?

Then we have the Jets whose coach offered a personal and genuine apology and I'm left asking, "What is wrong with this picture?" It is not she who owes the Jets an apology for walking into their locker room, of all places, so scantily clad? Here we have everyone tiptoeing around poor Ms. Sainz's sensibilities and defending her right as a woman to sexualize herself and dress any way she pleases, in the name of what? Feminism? Please. That's the same argument they make in the sex and prostitution industries, which I suppose is exactly the point. Dressing for sex there is totally appropriate. Not so in spectator sports however. In business life, being judged on what you wear and how you present yourself is a reality that everyone is subjected to, Ms. Sainz and her revealing, suggestive, exposing outfits not withstanding. Presumably, we all go to work to get paid for the job we've been hired to do, women and men alike. Imagine if a man came to work in a Speedo all greased up and muscular. It's absurd.

Meanwhile, a wise woman once told me that it was best to be attractive, but not attracting, when dressing professionally for work. What a simple and profound concept it was. Perhaps a tidbit Ms. Sainz might like to take to heart. There is a subtle, but significant difference. Sexing it up versus being pleasant to look at tell two very different stories. Women do, and will continue, to get a bad rap when they appear as though they are trying to attract, and therefore manipulate, men by exploiting their "assets." Whether they actually are or not is irrelevant. It's the impression they make and an inescapable one at that. Sorry girls, slutty just does not fly if you want to be taken seriously.


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Donna Flagg

Donna Flagg is the author of Surviving Dreaded Conversations and a New York City-based dancer.

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