The Virtue of Quitting

How many times have you heard phrases like "winners never quit and quitters never win"? Or some motivational speaker telling you to "never give up on your dreams"? Now how many times have you heard "sometimes it's best to give up when something isn't working and start on something new"? This post is about the value of knowing when, and how, to give up.

Substance Use, Abuse, & Addiction

Ever wonder if your bad habits or substance use is diagnosable? Read this article to check and understand more about the differences between use, abuse, and addiction.

8 Keys to Healthy Relationships

Ever wonder what a really health relationship looks like? Check this out.

How to Relax

I have found that many of my clients (and myself) struggle with the way relaxation techniques are presented, and they also have problems motivating themselves to use them. In response to that, I researched the types of relaxation techniques that have the most research support, and I developed a five-step relaxation sequence that anyone can do to feel more relaxed, fast.

How to Set Goals

Goal setting is something that we hear about throughout our lives, but I have found that very few people actually sit down and articulate the things they want. The following is a brief overview of the importance of goal setting, and the questions that you should answer to put your life in a new focus.

Basics of Communication

A large portion of our lives is spent communicating with others. Sharing your thoughts and understanding another person's feelings is an essential skill for functioning in any society in the world. The following is a model of communication that can help illustrate how communicating with others really works, all the places it can go wrong, and what we can do to be better.

TLCs and Universal Cures

Roger Walsh (University of California-Irvine) recently wrote a major paper of research supported lifestyle changes that improve overall well-being, which he calls Therapeutic Lifestyle Changes. Andreas Dick-Neiderhauser (University of Redlands) has been doing something similar, but he calls his list "Universal Curative Processes". The following is a quick overview of both.

How to Understand Your Mind

These three basic dimensions of how our minds work make understanding your own a lot easier.

Universal Relationship Needs

Do you know what the three relationship needs that everyone on Earth has?

Real Stages of Grief

Back in the late 1960s, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross proposed 5 basic stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance). Since that time, an immense amount of work has been done to better understand the grieving process, revealing an entirely different set of conclusions.

Feelings About Feelings

Feel bad about feeling bad? There's an easy solution.

Myths of Forgiveness

6 myths of forgiveness that everyone should be aware of.