Inferiority is an ever-present issue with an individual with narcissism, which often includes feeling inferior to one’s offspring. If a parent struggles with his or own sense of worth, this can be passed on to the child—as in passed on for the child to carry for the parent, to take on as though it were his/her own, and act less than the parent so that the parent can be greater than.
Keeping all that in mind, here are 12 ways of looking at the narcissist parent. Observe how you react, even subtlety when you read them. They could provide ways into yourself, a path to open up how you are accommodating. Once you have the slightest awareness to hold onto, you can sit with that, take it to therapy, write about it and use it to prepare for the next step of awareness. Seeing patterns objectively—yours and the narcissist's—is as important as acknowledging your feelings.
—From When Your Parent Is a Narcissist ©2016 Meredith Resnick