Adored, Reviled, and Forgotten by the Narcissist

Stop being the emotional hostage of a narcissistic parent.

Underlying Patterns: Hard to See and Painfully Obvious

Change and letting go by choice can trigger one’s own feelings of loss and abandonment.

Sticky, Tricky, and Icky: Unconscious Parent-Child Dynamics

Emotional abandonment may manifest in parental coldness, but when the dynamic is operative, both parent and young child believe it is they who are internally, irreparably flawed.

12 Ways of Seeing Your Entanglement With a Narcissist

Seeing patterns objectively—yours and the narcissist's—is as important as acknowledging your feelings.

Are You Confusing Love With Something Else?

As parents we want to hold onto the illusion that we can fix or control our children. We cannot fix or control them; it is an illusion.

Is Your Adult Child a Narcissist?

Is your adult child really a narcissist or more like the center of your universe? If so, why is he or she the focus of your life? Is there something you are avoiding?

The Caregiver's Spouse

A fiction author gets the real-world details—fantasies, realities, and so much more—right.

Narcissist's Adult Child: A Painful Role

If a narcissistic parent feels threatened, they can go from extreme adoration to devaluation in moments.

What Children of Narcissists Sometimes Do

As counterintuitive as it may feel in the narcissistic dynamic (especially with a parent), focus on the self is key to healing.

Subverting the Trap of Perfection This Mother's Day

Just in time for the Mother of all holidays, a book that applauds the imperfections of getting older. Finally.

The Fine Line Between Denial and Positive Thinking

Many families wait way too long to hire help. Are they misreading the problem or is it something else?

Caring For The Parent Who Doesn’t Care For You

For the adult child, a parent's illness often brings the most difficult feelings of childhood to the surface, taking even the most prepared by complete surprise.

Sexuality and Sex, And Caregiving

"Caregiving roles vary – household, as family caretaker, and, also rarely discussed, sexual."

When the Enabler Becomes the Disabler

In the business of doing for others what they can do for themselves? Welcome to the reality of Enabler/Disabler (they are one and the same).

Alzheimer’s, Alcoholism and—Finally—Healing

Over the past few years, a growing movement in elder care has taken shape to see Alzheimer’s disease differently, to find what is hopeful and positive in dementia caregiving—even if the disease is advanced. But how?

The Fantasy of the "Aging-Parent Talk"

We are told to have "the talk" about changes that may occur later in life. As a clinician, there are questions I think are good to ask about health but what if your parent is not going to give it up? What if he or she is not a talker? What if you are not a talker?