Ten Signs of Love

I recently read a list of 10 characteristics of love that grabbed my attention. In asking what it means to deeply love a person and what it means to love a place, Kathleen Dean Moore found that the answers converge.

Bullying Starts With Babies

Adults seem to have an easier time pointing fingers at child bullies than at adult bullies. There’s a notion that children are bullies by nature. Wrong. Adults often don’t realize that child bullying is learned from adults. Bullying attitudes are built into mainstream ideas about parenting. Don’t fall for them.

Moral Absence in Everyday Life

From child and partner abuse to buying products that pollute and destroy biodiversity, immorality is rooted in a lack of moral presence with those whom your actions affect. Whether from a sense of superiority, disgust, fear, duty or anger, it boils down to moral absence, a lack of relational presence-in-the-moment. It can happen to all of us.

Chimp Violence: Does It Matter For Human Self-Understanding?

A recent paper argues that Chimpanzee violence is genetic (though the study only shows that human interference is not the cause). Even if violence were genetic in chimps, would it matter for humanity’s self-understanding?

Can Isolated Babies Become “Real” Human Beings?

The Velveteen Rabbit, a popular children’s book, depicts how a stuffed rabbit becomes “real” from the love of a boy (and some magic). I’m afraid that what we are routinely doing to babies today is taking them in the opposite direction. They are becoming less “real,” that is, less human.

What is Child Flourishing?

Scholars explore the contexts for child flourishing and how to nurture families for child wellbeing.

Breastfeeding: What Is It Good For?

In honor of Breastfeeding Month, here are key things you should know and a new resource to get the inside scoop.

6 Hidden Myths Behind Baby Sleep Training Advocacy

In societies that are peaceful, babies are held nearly all the time and never sleep alone. They grow up to be more independent and self-reliant than any of us. Yet in the English-speaking West, we have a virulent subculture of baby independence, including forcing them to sleep alone. What gives? Here are the myths I think are driving the subculture.

Rebuking Bad Parenting Advice: Did We Go Too Far?

Cry-it-out sleep training has NOT been proven safe, contrary to what many parenting media report. When we outlined the logical and factual failures typical of such reporting we got an immediate rebuttal. Here’s why we stand by our original assertions and then some...

Child Sleep Training’s “Best Review of Research”

A proliferation of “Sleep Clinics” are charging large fees to teach parents how to train infants and young children to sleep. Is this good for children? What do the data say? Not much.

Parents Misled by Cry-It-Out Sleep Training Reports

Mainstream media mistakenly asserts once again crying-it-out sleep training as harmless to babies. It is far from the truth. Fortunately, most parents follow their natural response to soothe a baby. But media misinformation about research studies, normal baby sleep, and proper parenting undermines not only children’s wellbeing but a good society.

Elephant Weeps at Rescue After 50 Years of Enslavement

As a child I was divorced from nature, thinking animals dangerous, irritating or boring, a symptom of disconnection from nature. Learning about the rescue and weeping of elephant, Raju, shows how much I've changed.

Creating a Peaceful World Through Parenting

We all want peace but we are surrounded with psychopathology. How do we decrease the amount of psychopathy in our society and increase peaceableness? Here are 17 things we can do.

Raising a Baby Well: Like Climbing Mount Everest

Mountain climbers prepare for the strains of challenging mountains. Wise parenting also takes preparation. I examine the parallels, from practice and focus to respect and support.

Should Toddlers Be Medicated for ADHD?

How does a family get to the point of putting a 2-year-old on drugs? How do toddlers become out of control? Let’s look at the players in the world of the child.

Successful Motherhood Is a Collaboration

Mothers raising children at home alone is a strange and recent phenomenon and contrary to optimizing child development and mothers’ flourishing.

How Modern Societies Violate Human Development

The modern world has been making itself into a pathological place by establishing as ‘normal’ various practices that violate basic human needs. This leads to the development of suboptimal creatures who willy-nilly destroy their habitat (yes, us!). I present a short list of violations.

Five Things NOT to Do to Babies

When I had a puppy, he hated to be ignored or left alone. At those times he would chew up the furniture. Babies hate these things too, but they can’t damage the furniture to let us know. Instead, their development gets undermined and we and society have to live with the anxious and depressed results.

Why Play With a Child?

Do you ever get to the end of the day and you feel exhausted, like you just can't do anything more and just want to relax? And then as you take off your jacket and your shoes, you hear: "Mommy! Daddy! Come play with me!" Although playing with your child may seem like a hassle, you will probably think twice about saying “no” after reading this.

What's Better: Indoor or Outdoor Play?

What is valuable about outdoor play?

Infant Couch Potatoes

Should babies (0-2) be playing with tablets, watching television or videos?

Does Too Much Screen Time Make Kids Sick?

In 2001, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommended that children have no more than two hours of non-school-related screen time per weekday but children have much more than that. Does it matter?

Playing at School: More Important Than We Thought?

Playing at school (e.g., recess) has decreased dramatically or been eliminated in schools in recent decades. Why is that bad for kids?

Is Pretend Play Good for Kids?

There are two types of pretend play. Are they good for kids?

Children May Be Playing, but Their Brains Are Working

What types of play are there and why are they important for children's development?

Playing with Heart

The power of play—for all of us!

Happiness and Growth through Play

Play is found throughout the natural world. But you are an adult—do adults play?

Time for a Good Life

Gary Eberle, in his book, Sacred Time and the Search for Meaning, describes the gradual enslavement of human beings by time and the clock.

Love Starts With Babies

A lot of these suggestions are about being responsive to your baby. Having a positively-responsive parent is one of the best predictors of good outcomes for kids.

Premies: Maternal Touch Has 10-Year Effects

Mother-infant positive physical contact has been documented to organize the infant’s systems and their development. In a new study with premature babies, brief positive physical contact influenced sleep patterns, brain development, self-control and stress reactivity.