Asian Dating

Are you dating an Asian or dating a different Asian ethnicity? If so, there may be cultural landmines to navigate as you go against cultural norms and expectations from your family, culture, and/or ethnicity.

Talking About Sex Addiction

Questions such as "Do you believe in sex addiction?" or "Is porn/masturbation ok?" are simplistic questions to challenging clinical issues. Instead, these questions need to be reframed from another vantage point.

Celibacy Period

When couples are struggling with a partner's sex addiction, taking sex off the table may be difficult for some spouses who fear the addict will go back to his/her old ways. Therapeutically clinicians in this field will ask for a 90 day celibacy period. This may seem surprising but this is critical in the early stages of recovery for both the addict and the partner.

Listening to Your Vocational Voice

When is it time to follow your true self? How do you know if your calling awaits you? What are you to do when you're at a career crossroads in life? Learning to listen to your vocational voice is difficult amidst the din of daily life, but if you want to thrive then you'll find ways to discern your calling.

Slanted Eyes

A Haiku about the Asian-American experience.

Why I Stopped Psychological “Interpretations” with Clients

With the advent of neuroscience on brain development, science is focusing on the nonverbal and unconscious emotional world underlying clients within a therapeutic context. As a result, there is a rich world that awaits therapists willing to plumb the depths of not only their client's affective world but their own as well.

Dollars & Sense

Are you a therapist struggling with the business aspect of therapy? Is your conscience making you compromise on setting healthy boundaries pertaining to fees, late cancellations, and sliding scale clients to name a few? Whether you're aware of this or not, if you don't reconcile your issues related to money, it can impact your effectiveness as a therapist to clients.

Adopted: Beyond the Glamour of Asian-Adoptions

Of the 1.5 million adopted children in the United States, international adoptees are the fastest growing segment, of which most are Asian girls. While many of their stories are heartwarming and reflect our image of American compassion and generosity, the realities are much more complex. I


In an age where "selfies" are taken anywhere and posted everywhere on the internet, do the pictures really mean anything? Is it pure narcissism or is there a deeper meaning to the pictures you or I take, especially the ones we keep and cherish? In the field of PhotoTherapy the answer is unequivocally yes, as those pictures could hold clues to your true self.

Art as Therapy

Poetry, photography, and other forms of creative expressions should be encouraged within the therapeutic realm. If nothing else, we should at least be open to the myriad ways in which people find healing.

Asian Christian Female Sex Addict

Many people scoff at sex addiction citing it as men justifying their amoral sexual behaviors. But what happens when it's a woman struggling with compulsive masturbation and pornography? Is it viewed differently? How do you work with women who come from shame-based cultures or experiences? Learn more in this case study of an Asian Christian female sex addict.

Police Racism or Celebrity Entitlement

Is it racism when police detain African-American actress Daniele Watts or is this a case of celebrity entitlement? Listen to the audio and decide for yourself.

Adrian Peterson & Ignorance

There's a public outcry with the NFL case of domestic violence involving Race Rice but with NFL's Adrian Peterson's child abuse case, the public reaction is mixed. Peterson's punishment of his child with a tree branch some would say is justified. It's no different from many of my cultural clients but it dismisses the potential psychological damage incurred on kids.

"Genie, You're Free"

What's the role of the media when it comes to suicide coverage of a celebrity like Robin Williams? Is the media glamorizing and sending mixed messages about suicide to the public? And does a suicidal person like Williams have any "choice" in their actions?

Woe Is Me

Prior to 1997, the FDA did not allow for explicit commercials of pharmaceutical drugs on your television set. Just a year after, the budget for drug advertising tripled to $1.2 billion in 1998. It quadrupled during the following decade topping off at over $5 billion and has since leveled off around $4 billion annually.

Asian Gambling Addiction

There are a number of cultural factors that influence gambling among Asians here in the U.S. When we trace the roots back to Asia, you can see Asian cultures view gambling much more as a social activity than mainstream American society.

Asians and Attachment Theory

Is "Western" parenting better than "Asian" styles? Stoicism vs. emotional expression? I contend it is neither Western or Eastern that's better but one that has its roots in evolutionary psychology which led to the seminal work of John Bowlby's theory on attachments.

I'm Proud to be a Hyphenated-American

Why can't we just be "Americans?" is a refrain we as ethnic minorities hear a lot from the mainstream culture. You might be surprised to hear this issue of being a hyphenated American is nothing new in this country, in fact former presidents as recently as Theodore Roosevelt was highly critical of those who identified themselves as German-Americans, Italian-Americans….

Asian Honor and Suicide

Because of high emphasis on in-group belonging and affiliation with family and other social networks, dishonoring yourself places Japanese individuals at a risk of losing their place in society. "In this country, it is difficult to live without belonging to a group, and once you fall out there is hardly a chance to go back in," says a suicide-prevention expert.


What is the bi-racial, Asian experience. This Spoken Word poem is dedicated to those Hapas who've had to work through issues of race, identity, and acceptance.

Asian Shame and Honor

Shame and Honor. It's like the Yin and Yang of Asian collectivist societies. This is one of the biggest differences between Asian-Americans and those from shame-based cultures compared to Caucasians without an ethnic or cultural identification.

Insane in the Membrane

Since the FDA approved Prozac in 2003 to minors (children at least 8 years old), the pharmaceutical industry has capitalized on a new generation of potential patients. Federal Health Department figures reveal that children as young as two are being prescribed anti-depressants, with alarming increases in the numbers of prescriptions of the controversial drugs in the 2-6, a

The 5 Asian Love Languages

You've heard of the book, "The 5 Love Languages", now there's a shorter blog version for Asians, "The 5 Asian Love Languages".

Vincent Chin

Vincent Chin’s death became the catalyst and rallying cry for the modern day Asian-American civil rights movement. For more than three decades, the facts to that story remained largely undisputed. But now, thirty-two years after Chin’s tragic death, white journalists are telling the world race played no role in his murder.

Asian-American or Never American

What I find equally disturbing is this mind-set of Asian-Americans being perceived and treated as second-class citizens. Maybe not so much in overt racism such as in hiring or housing practices but certainly in the views of mainstream America that we are “perpetual foreigners”.

Elliot Rodger's Asian Self-Hatred

The complexities related to Elliot Rodger’s mental health is vast and speculative but from his writings it’s clear it hinges on three prongs: race, class, and gender. Mainstream media has expounded on the class and male entitlement aspect of Rodger’s life but very little is mentioned on the racial component.

Asian Shame and Addictions

Millions of Asians are hiding in shame and suffering in silence. This is due in large part because of the cultural shame that undergirds Asian societies. You need to understand the interconnectedness between Asian shame and honor if you want to truly grasp the depth of cultural shame and why so many Asians suffer in silence with their various addictions.