Answers to Your Questions About Passive-Aggressiveness

What do you do when they know they're angry, but they just want you to be wrong?

7 Steps to Resolving Conflict With a Passive-Aggressive

Healthy conflict resolves disputes, and builds understanding and compassion in relationships.

When Passive-Aggression Is the Third Party in Your Relations

Passive-aggressive behavior doesn't have to spell death for your relationship, as long as you're both open and honest about your boundaries.

Is Your Anger a Cover for Shame?

For many of us, we carry around secret feelings of shame for years. Something we did in our past — or something that was done to us — haunts us. Shame can be a major anger trigger.

4 Reasons Why You Should Embrace Your Anger

Anger makes us uncomfortable for a reason—so that we pay attention to it and learn from it.

How Do You Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible? (Part 2)

I'll explain what I mean when I use the word "forgive," why I recommend the healing power of forgiveness, and how to heal even when you don't feel you can forgive.

Why You Should Never Vote Angry

Think about the last time you got very angry. Was what you said or did after you felt angry helpful? Or, did it make things worse?

Untangling Anger

So how do you discover what it is that makes you angry? You start by paying attention.

6 Steps to Bringing Out the Best in Each Other

Would you like to rekindle feelings of love that might have gotten lost along the way? This simple 6-step exercise can really help!

The Revenge Myth

Revenge is appealing. Someone hurts us and we're convinced that revenge will make us feel whole again. Just thinking about revenge can trigger positive emotions.

4 Ways to Survive Holidays With the Family

The trick is to not judge yourself too harshly for reverting to childhood behaviors and to not let your family's treatment of you get too far under your skin.

What to Do When Your Emotions Overwhelm You

When you're highly sensitive and someone says or does something hurtful, you feel a rush of emotions like a wave has cracked over your head. If you want to keep yourself from drowning in your emotions, you must learn to relax and stop fighting them.

The 5 Fighting Words You Need to Drop From Your Relationship

Do you fight dirty? These five words are hurting your relationship.

3 Ways to Stop Having the Same Fight Over and Over

Are you tired of having the exact same argument with your partner? These three steps can shed a lot of light of your situation.

3 Steps to Keeping Your Cool (and Saving Your Relationships)

By identifying what provokes you, learning to recognize when anger is on its way, and restraining yourself from impulsively responding to every perceived threat, you can save your relationships from destructive reactions.

How Your Beliefs About Yourself Limit Your Potential

At one time, your beliefs protected you and helped you navigate your life. But as an adult, believing you can't express your anger or that winning is all that matters - doesn't help you anymore. It limits you.

Love and the Passive-Aggressive Personality

While you can help your partner verbalize their feelings and you can tell them what is and isn't ok with you—and hold them accountable, you are the only person whose behavior you can control.

You May Be Playing the Victim, and Not Even Know It?

When you do everything your partner asks, you likely expect gratitude in return, but what it actually creates in them is a reservoir of guilt and anger.

What Kind of Angry Are You? (Part 2)

To get the important message that anger is trying to deliver, you need to steer clear of your old, unhealthy avoidance habits and let your inner communication come through.

What Kind of Angry Are You? (Part 1)

Anger dumping can destroy your relationships. You can use mindfulness skills to learn how to recognize the signs of anger so that you may learn from your anger rather than release it into the world in a destructive way.

The Anger Technique That's Better Than Anger Management

Anger is an emotional energy that resides in our body-mind until it runs its course. Your anger can teach you about yourself––what's important to you, what your sensitivities are, where your boundaries lie––but you have to listen to it to learn anything.

How to Create Healthier Anger in Your Children

While telling your child to "stop crying" isn't emotional child abuse per se, your child may still need help with depression, addiction, or other issues later in life. This cycle can be stopped, however, if we learn how to create healthier anger in our kids, and in ourselves.

The 10 Secret Steps to a Happier Family This Holiday Season

While the movies and TV shows we watch this time of year imply that one cannot get through the holidays without infighting between family members, this simply is not true.

Why You May Be Passive-Aggressive, and Not Even Realize It

You may have called partners, family members, coworkers, or friends "passive aggressive" when in conflict, but have you ever stopped to wonder if you yourself could be exhibiting passive aggressive behaviors, too?

Is Your Reaction to Conflict Destroying Your Relationship?

Ask yourself, when in conflict: Does your pulse race and your heart pound? Do you talk over the other person? Do you turn trivial things into causes for battle? Is winning your ultimate goal? If your answer to some of these questions was, "Yes, that sounds just like me!" you're probably a reactive person.

How Do You Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible? (Part 1)

Most of us hold at least some misconceptions about forgiveness, so before you take steps toward forgiving someone, you need to understand what it is.

Don't Let Anger Wreck Your Career

From insecurity and helplessness to procrastination and wanting to give up, anger can make your work-life a struggle. This may come as a surprise, but anger can also benefit you at work. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion; it can sharpen your focus, make you feel more confident, motivate change, and stimulate your creativity and productivity.

7 Things You Need to Learn About Your Temper

"Stop crying this instant!" "Don't take that attitude with me!" You might not hear these commands anymore, but the things your parents and caregivers told you when you were angry as a child have stuck with you.

Do You Know Why You're Angry? (Part 2)

The single greatest influence on the course of our lives is our family of origin. Until and unless you consciously choose to question and change your responses both inside yourself and with your family, you will continue to behave in the way you were raised.

Do You Know Why You're Angry? (Part 1)

Often, the main message children learn about anger is that it is something to be feared. Many children also learn to say “yes” to unpleasant things so they can avoid being hurt.