We receive constant messages from the media, the diet and fitness industry, and even well-intentioned sources like our physicians, that can add up to shame and distress associated with our size, the way we look, and how we eat—effectively “super-sizing” our concerns about mid-life weight gain.
The research may not show that existing measures of wisdom correlate with increased age, but the experts still believe that wisdom is age-related. Certainly, in common usage, the idea of wisdom is associated with a kindly bearded older man or a sweet, gentle older woman.
Much of “long-term care” takes place in people’s homes, rather than in institutions. And many older people may be able to manage to stay in their homes with just a little more help with everyday and periodic tasks. When strictly informal care is not possible or sufficient, there are many resources to explore for older people aging in place.
Beyond important messages about caregiving, there is another even more universal and important theme in "Amour": the later part of the cycle of life often includes declining health and strength and increasing dependence on others. It can be a messy business.
Evidence of "age-disavowal" is all around us. If we believe that there are only two possible stages for women: young, sexy ingenue and frail wizened gray-haired lady, we will find it harder to make a smooth transition and find a comfortable place for ourselves in the middle.
Midlife women are understandably ambivalent about our own aging. With so many products and procedures marketed to conceal or defy aspects of our age, we may feel uncomfortable or even apologetic if we let nature take its course.
This blog focuses on how we cope with mid-life (i.e., 45-65 years old), bringing in theories from gerontology, sociology, and psychology to explore some of the developmental tasks, challenges, and gifts of this phase of life.