Turning On (and Off!) the Athlete Self

Parents, coaches, athletes and sports psychologists tend to focus on training the athlete self without mentioning it can be a dark and powerful magic. Just as turning it on allows us to compete, turning off the athlete self allows us to exist outside competition.

Dating Tips for Single Parents

Many single parents who are gun shy after divorce go in one of two directions: they convince themselves they are better off only dipping a toe in dating, or they deny and minimize their fears, which can lead to a reckless plunge. Here's how to avoid these extremes.

Breaking the Silence

There was a time, not so long ago, when doctors — and the public alike — believed that we should not tell or discuss a terminal prognosis with a patient. It was a time when housewife alcoholism, nervous breakdowns, ethnic prejudice, serious depressions, and suicidal behaviors were not spoken about out loud. It was the time of my childhood.

Without Failure, There Is No Success

Chad Pennington asks, "How can you truly know what success is, if you’ve never experienced failure?" This post shows how to encourage positive failure on the path to success.

Don’t Tell Me to Stop Training!

Our bodies speak volumes. Start listening! And maybe, it’s time to consider that “less may be more” and will result in better performances, greater enjoyment and more time to nurture multiple sources of self esteem.

Your Facebook Self

Because so often many of our “friends” rarely if ever come face to face with us or even converse with us verbally, we can craft an idealized image and present it to the world as complete reality. We post ourselves, smiling and engaged, using only the best, most flattering photographs, crafting an idealized image and presenting it to the world as a complete reality.

Giving Back When You Have Little to Give

One of my greatest wishes as a parent is that somehow, mixed in with the fun, carefree stuff, I will also somehow be able to instill in my kids a sense of responsibility to those less fortunate than themselves.
Own Anger to Manage It

Own Anger to Manage It

Though no one category fits all, in my psychotherapy practice I notice a strong correlation between folks with chronic anger management problems and those who exhibit self-defeating personality traits. Own these traits to defeat anger.

Web Blurs Boudaries of Public & Private Time

When, where, and how therapists and clients “talk” is not what it was when I started practicing psychotherapy in 1973! It is the responsibility of psychotherapists to examine how they use technology and new methods of communication in their work, and to question the impact on the psyches of both the therapist and the client.

A New Life at 96

Three years ago, at age 96, my mother stated that her loneliness was unbearable and her meaningful connections were gone. Here is how she lived with my husband and me in a NYC apartment for a resplendent three years.

Don't Worry, My Son Has the Magic, Too

When this patient walked in the door of my father’s office for the first time, Lyndon Johnson was president. The US troops were not yet on the ground in Vietnam. The patient, at the time, was in his twenties. He is now in his seventies, a grandfather.

Resistance and Resilience on the Couch

It was hate at first sight. Not only did my office in an upscale neighborhood offend John’s radical Marxist politics, but my leather shoes violated his belief in animal rights, and my use of lipstick piqued his feminist sensibility. And the therapeutic relationship got worse from there.

With FB, You Never Have To (Get To...) Say Goodbye

Through the beauty of social media sites such as Facebook, we may never have to say goodbye -- for better and for worse.

Submissive Listening, Therapeutic Listening and the Third Ear

Listening as an act of rebellion or respect—and how to accomplish each.

Retirement Would Be A Cinch If I Didn’t Have To Stop Working

It's easy to believe that once we retire we'll be much happier without the constant wear and tear of work on our aging minds and bodies. Sounds logical doesn’t it?

The Hero's Journey of Tiger Woods

With two season victories and the U.S. Open next weekend, I'm forced to consider him again in my life.

Change. It Could Happen to You.

As the balmy days of spring begin their evolution into the heat of summer, as children across the country say goodbye to their classrooms and hello to the freedom of the outdoors, it is perhaps a good time to think about transition.

A Meditation on Meditation

Meditation is quality control in the manner of a chef’s cooking techniques – consistently practiced, it allows a constant quality of “dishes.”

Movie Review: We Have a Pope (2011)

Just stay away from sex, childhood or foiled ambitions. Oh yes, and the Cardinals will be with you in the room.

A Psychoanalytic Appreciation of Maurice Sendak

Before the publication of “Where the Wild Things Are” in 1963, children’s literature was comprised largely of folk tales, fairy tales and near-Victorian tales of good little children whose job was to please their elders – or else. These stories were morality tales meant to teach children the lessons of how to behave in an adult world.

Three Ways of Knowing

The benefit of psychoanalysis comes through finding a new way of knowing. It is a knowing how rather than a knowing what—a process and not a result—that makes psychoanalysis a powerful journey.

A Word, a Song, a Smell

His daughter’s death had not been unexpected. She had had advanced liver disease, the consequence, Willy had acknowledged ruefully many times, of a life of promiscuity and drug-abuse. Of her death and his inability to mourn her, Willy said with a kind of shrug, “I lost my daughter many years ago.”

My Gender is Tender

From Warhol model Jackie Curtis to modern filmmaker Jonathan Caouette, transgender culture has gone from hiding in plain sight to plainly seen.