After breakup, anger often takes the shape of self-blame and self-disgust: you’re “not good enough” – you’re “ugly,” “stupid,” “fat,” “old,” “useless, "undeserving." It’s a long way out of that hole you're digging yourself into.
If only you had picked him up at the airport that day; if only you didn't complain about your job so much. Why didn't you go on that camping trip? Why didn’t you tell her you loved her more often? If only you were a different person who did different things in a different way!
Psychotherapy is a very unusual conversation designed to free and enhance your ability to love and work, clarify how you feel about yourself and others. This blog combines my clinical experience as a psychologist with recent research to offer insights about real and lasting relationship change that starts with understanding yourself first.