Do Romantic Relationships Imply a Loss of Self? Should They?

A recent column by David Brooks raises the false dichotomy between individuality and sociality.

Should You "Write First, Edit Later"?

One of the most common pieces of writing advice is "write first, edit later," but does this work for everybody?

Why Adultery Is Harmful Even Before It's Discovered

Kai Cole uses her experience of her marriage and divorce from Joss Whedon to show that the saying "what you don't know can't hurt you" is wrong.

How to Succeed in Life...Ideally, on Your Own Terms

In my third of three posts on defining success for yourself, I look at what the academic world considers to be success and how this can relate to your career as well.

Are You Working for the Right Reasons?

In the second of three posts on defining success for yourself, I talk about the dangers of working without knowing what you're working toward.

Defining Success for Yourself

In the first of three posts, I discuss the importance of determining what success means for you, whatever your field of endeavor is (or what you want it to be).

Do You Ever Feel That You're Not Interesting Enough?

In the book and film "About a Boy," the main adult character comes to realize that his life of leisure and pleasure may prevent him from finding love. What can we learn from this?

What Can Scarlett Johansson Teach Us About Monogamy?

Recently, Scarlett Johansson said that monogamy is too much work, it's not natural, and it's not for her. What can those of us who want to be monogamous learn from her?

Falling in Love Online: Romantic or Risky?

A recent story in the The New York Times told of an online love connection that lasted nine years before it was realized in the real world. Romantic? Yes. Risky? Maybe.

In Defense of Time Management (From Someone Who Sucks at It)

A recent article at The Guardian claims that "time management is ruining our lives." But does it have to?

Should Self-Loathers Be Entrepreneurial Toward Dating?

Can adopting an entrepreneurial spirit, such as relationship writer Neely Steinberg recommends, help the self-loathing to jump into the dating world? I think so, and here's why...

What I Say–and What I Don't–with My Posts on Self-Loathing

A recent comment from a reader prompts me to discuss what I'm trying to say with my self-loathing posts — and what I'm not trying to say.

Mixed Signals on Social Life, Relationships, and Loneliness

We get nearly as much conflicting advice about our social lives and happiness these days as we do about nutrition, diet, and exercise. Do experts really know what makes you happy?

Do We Put Too Much Weight on Shared Interests When Dating?

It sounds wonderful to have interests in common with a person we're dating, but we should be wary of putting too much stock in them—in the end, they could backfire.

4 Reasons Why We Stay With Partners Who Aren't Right for Us

Why are some people so picky when it comes to superficial qualities in a partner, yet willing to put up with harmful or dangerous personality traits?

In Defense of Authenticity and Being Yourself

In the New York Times, Adam Grant argues against authenticity and being yourself. In this post, I stand up in their defense.

Does Everyone Have Longing? (A Response to David Brooks)

In a recent New York Times column, David Brooks makes claims about the role and presence of longing in human motivation that this author finds somewhat questionable...

What Can We Learn From Watching a Superhero Civil War?

The new film "Captain America: Civil War" is getting rave reviews, but did you know there are very interesting ethical issues lying just beneath the surface of the original comics?

Why You Might Want to Reconsider Putting Yourself Down

Do you put yourself down a lot? Is self-deprecation your middle name? (That would be awkward.) Novelist and journalist Ilana C. Myer considers some downsides of this common habit.

David Bowie, A Personal Remembrance

Words cannot adequately express what David Bowie meant to me, but here is my best attempt.

My Resolution for 2016: Cut the (Wireless) Internet Cord

Like many people, I spend far too much time online, much of it truly wasting time, and it affects my work and play even when offline. So, guess what my 2016 resolution is?

How Do You Answer the Question, “What Do You Do?”

In which I explore several issues with identity and career—in particular, why I'm so uncomfortable calling myself a writer.

Does the Impostor Syndrome Apply to Relationships?

How is self-doubt in relationships related to the impostor syndrome in professional contexts? A reader's questions prompt some more thought on issue and more.

Sexual Equality: Are You in the 1 Percent or the 99 Percent?

Everyone wants to have more or better sex, but some people find it easier than others. What's more, this is not often based on merit or virtue, but instead on factors such as looks and status, which are based largely on luck. Should we be more worried about this type of "sexual inequality"? Let's ask philosopher Patricia Marino to help us sort through these issues.

Do You Feel Like a Placeholder in Your Relationship?

If you suffer from self-loathing or low confidence, you may worry that your partner is always looking for some better—which may be a self-fulfilling prophecy you want to avoid.

The Self-Loather's Worst Fear: Is Self-Image Set for Life?

A comment on an earlier post on self-loathing prompts a question about how easy (or difficult) it is to change the way we see ourselves.

Thinking About “The Rationality of Rage”

In The New York Times, Matthew Hutson surveys some recent research pointing to the social benefits of anger. But might anger be too difficult to control to use strategically? Let's ask some philosophers what they think.

How John Steinbeck Convinced Me to Start a Writing Diary

For years I resisted keeping any sort of diary or journal, but reading the writing diary of John Steinbeck made me look at keeping one in a different light.

Marvel Comics' Daredevil Shows the Experience of Depression

Once again, the creators behind Marvel Comics' "Daredevil" masterfully use the comics form to illustrate psychological maladies, this time the depression suffered by the title character, Matt Murdock aka Daredevil.

Same-Sex Marriage Needed to Be Decided by the Supreme Court

Today the Supreme Court decided that marriage is a right for all, same-sex and opposite-sex couples alike. Some would rather this has been decided by popular vote, but it's more appropriate and just that the courts should decide. But why?

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