Family Communication Part III: The Blame Game

This post is the third in a long series of posts describing strategies for overcoming family avoidance strategies in order to persist in fruitful efforts to stop repetitive dysfunctional interactions. Part III shows how family members use the issue of who's to blame for a problem to initimate potential problem solvers,and what they can do to counter this maneuver.

How Children Read Mixed Messages From Parents

Parents who are confused over their own roles in life often give out mixed messages to their children about what is expected from them. If children try to point out the contradictions, they are often faced with very negative reactions, so they have to figure this out for themselves I find that they use three rules to heirarchically rank the elements of a double message.

Why Psychotherapy Efficacy Studies Are Nearly Impossible

Unlike drug studies, studies of the outcomes of various psychotherapy techniques face a unique problem: human beings can choose how they will respond to any technique a therapist uses to try to change their behavior. There are also a nearly infinite number of variables which cannot be controlled. The many unique issues facing therapy researchers are described

Leave Me Alone – I’m Lonely

Many parents seem to go out of their way to annoy, irritate, and/or verbally abuse their adult children on a regular basis. This post describes some of the reasons for this bizarre behavior.

Win-Win Strategies in Family Communication: Part 2

When discussing and changing repetitive dysfunctional family communication and behavior patterns, the use of illustrative examples can be a minefield. Here's how to maneuver around them.

Why Don't Child Sex Abuse Victims Tell?

Only 30 percent of incest victims reveal their situations, and in almost half of these cases, the revelation is accidental.

How to Talk to Relatives about Family Dysfunction

How to recognize and counter the traps that derail constructive problem solving with recalcitrant relatives.

Disease Mongering in a Top Psychiatry Journal

Counting symptoms that don't count for fun and profit.

Why Do Some Siblings From Troubled Families Turn Out Fine, While Others Flounder?

Siblings Are Affected Differently in Dysfunctional Families

Stop Running Away From Your Family Problems!

It's time to learn how to stop dysfunctional family interactions.

Why Is It So Hard for Families to Change Repetitive Dysfunctional Patterns?

Why is it so damn difficult for family members to stop engaging in repetitive behavior that is clearly driving them all nuts?

Borderline Personality Disorder: Meet the Parents, Part II

How parents become conflicted about their own children.

Borderline Personality Disorder: Meet the Parents, Part I

What Parental Behavior May Lead Children to Develop Borderline Traits?

Finding a Good Psychotherapist

How to find the best psychotherapist for you.

Does One Need to Forgive Abusive Parents to Heal?

One of the most frequent questions I get when I start working with patients with previously abusive parents or other primary caretakers is, "Do I have to forgive them?"

Scientific Fraud in the Nature Versus Nurture Debate

Biological psychiatrists purposely use misleading statistics.

You're Asking For It?

"You're just asking for it!" Just a figure of speech?

Commitment Phobics

Some commitment phobic adults are playing a dysfunctional family role

Bipolar or Borderline?

A rampant case of diagnonsense

The Limits of Cognitive Psychotherapy

Are people really as stupid as they seem?

The Family Dynamics of Severe Child Abuse

How can abused children grow up to be abusive parents?

The Family Dynamics of Patients with Borderline Personality Disorder

Why do some people create havoc in their relationships?

Self-Sacrifice: For the Good of the Kin

Are humans really as selfish as they appear to be?

Immaturity Is Now Officially a Disease

None Dare Call It Acting Out, Part II

None Dare Call It Acting Out, Part I

Drugging children for fun and profit.

Tangled Emotions

What ever happened to neurosis?

Freddie the Freeloader and Minnie the Moocher

Why do more and more adults refuse to grow up while remaining dependent on their parents?