6 Musts for a Perfect Valentine’s Day

You think Valentine’s Day is a commercial opportunity designed by vendors? Think again, if your spouse doesn’t agree. If you miss the world-is-observing-love-for-a-whole-day without marking the love in your relationship, regardless or your sentiments, you will be saying, “I don’t care enough about us to put in a modicum of effort.” For the unbeliever...
I Feel Too Fat for Sex

I Feel Too Fat for Sex

Compare the number of women you know with a healthy acceptance of their imperfect body to the number you know who are scathingly critical of every flaw. Women often have a concrete equation in their heads – sexy does as sexy is. Whether objectively attractive, a partner’s good opinion notwithstanding, a poor female body image slams libido shut.

5 Ways to Change the Sheets on the Same Bed

Resolutions to change your sex life instead of changing your partner!

The Twelve Nights of Christmas

Traditionally, Christmas begins on the 25th of December not the day after Thanksgiving. To help make our season bright in the bedroom, I offer 12 thematic ideas as sexy advice.

Sleeping with the Ghost of Christmas Past

The holidays crystallize for us those critical moments when we didn’t get what we wanted or needed from our past relationships and families of origin. Frank and Amanda had gone from having sex once every three months to twice a week. He expressed his doubt about the change, “Even though we are having sex more, it still seems like she doesn’t really want it or me."

I Never Want to Have Sex Again

The most frequent phone call to my office begins with these 7 dismaying words. Even young women say this. Hot women say this. In fact about 40 million women feel this. They all can’t be too busy for sex. Have you told your husband this? Has your wife told you this? Here’s how to analyze what’s going on.

A Lower Libido Woman's Six Secrets

She doesn’t want it as much as you and she can’t explain why. Dread – maybe she has low libido. Or maybe because men and women experience the rhythm of their body’s desire-arousal-orgasm cycle as an absolute truth, there is simply misunderstanding. Here’s a video explaining some gender differences to help keep sex in synch!

Should We See a Sex Therapist?

Fears about sex therapy: the sex therapist will suggest a threesome to spice up our sex life, I’ll have to reveal all my past sexual escapades to my spouse, I’ll be shamed for how little I know about sex, the sex therapist will be some New Age-Barbara Streisand-in-the Fockers-flowy-flowery, weirdo.
Five Sex Tips for Women About Men

Five Sex Tips for Women About Men

Our husbands don’t just want sex; they want us to want them. It’s ever so slightly different but there’s almost a spiritual difference. Wanting confirms our love and reveals our vulnerability to our primitive bond with each other. For many men, sex IS love, sex IS connection.

Does Parenthood = Sex Three Times a Year?

Jake called into a morning drive radio talk show where I’m a sexpert and reported that there had been no sex in his marriage during his wife’s the last trimester. Since their little darling was born, sex had only happened three times – hurriedly and perfunctorily. Another caller, Angie reported that after their baby was born, her husband had totally lost his sex drive...
Five Sex Tips for Men About Women

Five Sex Tips for Men About Women

I asked my husband what men would like to hear about. He responded that men wanted to know the bra trick. And probably know how to get her into bed and make her want to do it again—they wanted someone with a manual to share the important secrets. Here are Five tips to help.
She's Only Doing It 'Cause I Asked Her To

She's Only Doing It 'Cause I Asked Her To

Changing sexual patterns is tough. Accepting change is tougher. We want to know two things about our partner’s about-face: Is it from their heart? Will it last?
Talking with College Kids about Hooking Up

Talking with College Kids about Hooking Up

Do you imagine your college son or daughter hooking up with a potential life partner like you did in college? Well, “hooking up” these days has a brand new meaning. The kids call it “hit it and quit it.

Why I'm Not Into You

I was invited to speak on low sexual desire at a women’s gathering. After listening to the participants’ conversation, I piped up and said I thought I might be in the wrong place. They all sounded full of desire if not bawdy with sexual innuendo. “Yeah, we’re horny!” they replied, “Just not for our husbands.”
Ryan Lochte, His Mom, and Us

Ryan Lochte, His Mom, and Us

The world is askance that Ryan Lochte's mother would knowingly reference her adult son's intimate life.

His/Her Tasks to Insure Fireworks in the Bedroom on the 4th!

How fantasy and seduction create exciting sex. 8 tasks for her and 6 tasks for him to make sure the 4th of July is filled with fireworks in the bedroom!!

Sexuality of Hope or Despair in Marriage

We marry with a commitment that sex will continue to make our union alive and complete. With sacred vows we commit onto sexual fidelity—an alive sexual relationship solely with our chosen partner. Over and over again, we make love and grow in secure attachment.

11 Honeymoon Assignments

If you want the honeymoon to be just the beginning of a fulfilling sex life, spend an afternoon on the beach sharing intimate secrets of what, when, where, and how you like sex!
Sexual Distancers  - 3 Ways to Satisfy the Insatiable Spouse

Sexual Distancers - 3 Ways to Satisfy the Insatiable Spouse

Sexual distancer like sex; they really do! They like to have sex when they are ready for it, when they are expecting it, when they want it. Seduction is often the elixir that awakens their sexual desire. They'd like to be tempted, coaxed, reassured, charmed and sweet-talked toward this precipice that feels slightly dangerous and out of control.

Extra Whipped Cream and Sexual Pursuers

I asked for extra whipped cream when I bought an ice cream sundae with my family last weekend. Piles of whipped cream and mounds of fluff came out positively billowing on top of the melting soft vanilla covered in hot fudge. I was surprised. I've never had floating clouds of it on anything I've ever ordered. I was happy thought it would probably never happen again.

Is Fighting About Sex Ruining your Marriage?

Balance the between space and get happy sexually.

Witches, Wenches, and Sexual Women

What's the difference between a "slut" and a "good" woman?

Three Steps to Getting Sexy Back

So many patients I've helped say, "I'm not attracted to my partner anymore." Hate to say it, but this is normal. When we are in disillusionment, our partner seems more toad than princess or prince. Here are the three tips you need to stay sexual with your partner.

The Myth of Automatic Sexual Fulfillment

Sexual feelings and loving feelings are not automatic but needn't fade.

Disaster Recovery in the Bedroom

Staying sexy through ED and vaginal dryness

Give me sex; I’ll give you talk. Talk to me; I’ll give you s

For more sex, unhook from the power struggle.

Overwhelmed by Life, Underwhelmed by Sex

The first part of an excerpt from Laurie's book.

February 15th: Falling Out of Love

Yesterday: high holiday for lovers; today, disillusionment everywhere.

6 Tips for Best Sex Honeymoons

Best Sex Honeymoons – Adventure or Sun-drenched?

Silent Night: When All's Quiet in the Master Bedroom

Recovering physical intimacy in sex-less marriages