Hate is a strong and powerful emotion. It’s not something you take likely. But every once in a while you probably find yourself with such animosity and disdain for a colleague, that you feel justified in saying you hate them.
Hatred for a colleague is bad news in many different ways. In no particular order, it prevents you from working effectively together, which is bad for your career and bad for business. It causes stress and threatens your mental and physical health if it isn’t rectified. And it probably spills over into your other relationships, souring them because of undue energy focused on your negative relationship with your colleague.
For all those reasons, it’s really important that you move beyond hating your colleague and repair the relationship. Try these steps:
If a true fix is impossible, you at least need to reduce the intensity of the emotion to protect against the negative impacts that hatred has on you. Even after step 1, you’ll be able to take ownership of your reactions to your teammate’s behavior. That will reduce the control they have over you.
It’s not healthy to hold on to hate. It’s bad for you, your team, your family, and your organization. Take steps today to improve a bad relationship, you’ll be glad you did.