“If you can’t be with the one you love honey, love the one you’re with”
You can be productive at work without being happy. You can be engaged, interested, stimulated, rewarded, and promoted at work without being happy. You can spend 40 or 50 or 60 hours a week in your job and get paid without ever needing to be happy. But why in the world would you want to?
If you have to spend the majority of your waking hours and the best years of your life at work, isn’t it worth a little effort to be happy?
Happy workers are those who can connect with and enjoy the people around them. But that doesn’t mean that you have to wait for the stars to align and hope you're placed on the ideal team of people who fit you perfectly right from the start. Just as couples in arranged marriages tend to grow to love each other over time, you can grow to like and enjoy your teammates.
The idea is not far fetched. There are simple things you can do to foster a connection with your teammates—even the ones who drive you nuts. You see, liking your teammates doesn’t require a change in their behavior; it requires a change in your mindset. You control whether you like someone or not…nothing they do will make you like them if you choose not to and nothing they do will make you dislike them if you choose to like them.
In the next week, choose to like one teammate who you have until now disliked. Try these tactics over the next few weeks and see how your relationship changes.
Some of the people I like most in the world used to rub me the wrong way. Once I decided to like them, I focused much more on the great things about them than on their quirks. Over time, I found lots of evidence for why they are very likeable. Go pick one person who you will choose to like from now on.
For those of you who are just not buying it, maybe you need to stick with my post Why It’s Best if You Don’t Like Your Teammates.