Self-Criticism Can Sabotage Your Happiness; and Productivity

People often motivate themselves to try harder and do better by being self-critical. Despite their best intentions, this approach often backfires. There is a better way…

All Self-Improvement Starts Here

There are innumerable ways to make personal changes, so it can be difficult to know where to start. However, increasing your self-awareness is the one first step that all approaches take. Learn more about how to do this, and how it can help motivate you to be persistent in creating personal change.

Don't Just React: Choose Your Response

You want to be different, but don’t know how to stop reacting as you do. Victor Frankl reflected wisely upon just this kind of situation by saying, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

Nurture Personal Growth With Self-Compassion

When you fail to make personal changes despite your best efforts, you may find that you lose patience with yourself. Instead, try developing self-compassion.

Succeed at Work: How to Get Out of Your Own Way

People are often confused about why they get in their own way on the path to success. If pushing yourself harder isn’t working and you don’t know how else to help yourself, it’s time to stop trying to force change. It’s time to identify the problem and work directly with it.

Stop Your Anxiety Now!

If you struggle with worry and anxiety, you know all too well the toll it takes on your life. So, to ease your struggles, learn square breathing. It can help you to relax, refocus, and move forward.

Guest House to Your Emotions

So many emotions occupy all of us each and every day that being fully aware of them can be a challenge – and certainly not always pleasant. However, emotional self-awareness also offers great benefits. It is essential in helping you to feel alive, understand and empathize with others, and make effective decisions in your daily life.

Overcoming Obstacles to Happiness and Success

Nobody gets through life without falling at least sometimes. So, it’s important to be able to handle those setbacks well. By being self-accepting and having compassion for your struggles, you can remain calm during difficult times and be resilient when you fall.

Navigating Your Way to Success

To succeed in life, it's not enough to set a path to your personal goals. You must also know how to negotiate this path, including avoiding pitfalls and obstacles. This requires that you develop self-awareness so that you can attend to, and consciously choose, every step you make.

Four Steps to Happiness and Success

Because emotions come straight from the heart, rejecting them is rejecting a part of you. Running away from them means running away from you. This is a flight without end because you can’t escape yourself. Instead, learn to face and accept your emotions to find peace within yourself, harmony in your relationships, and be engaged and productive at work.

Discouraged Again? Help Yourself Out of the Familiar Hole

Do you have trouble with feeling repeatedly discouraged or depressed? It can feel like being in the bottom of a pit that you can’t climb out of. Then, somehow, you do get out… but only to find yourself there again; and again. It’s a pattern that gets old fast. Fortunately, there is a solution – and it’s in you.

Escaping the Grip of Emotional Pain

If trying to boost your mood leaves you unhappy – or you just keep sinking back into unhappiness – it’s not working. Don’t give up, but do consider an alternative approach. To feel happy, sometimes you first need to embrace being upset.

Formulate an Unbreakable New Year's Resolution

Preparing to make your New Year’s resolution? Get yourself in the right frame of mind. Then use these questions to help ensure that it is a success.
Stop Self-Doubt in Its Tracks and Build Self-Confidence

Stop Self-Doubt in Its Tracks and Build Self-Confidence

If you often question yourself and your abilities – personally, professionally, or in other areas in life – then you are holding yourself back from happiness and success. Learn to identify how you do this; and how to build your confidence.

Underappreciated Advice on How To Succeed

Chew your food 32 times before swallowing. This tidbit of advice is a wonderful metaphor for almost any goal; from overcoming anxiety or depression to advancing your career.

The Key to Genuine Success

You know you have attained genuine success when you have achieved your goals and enjoy life. If what you do in your career or other aspects of life leave you feeling empty or uncomfortable with yourself, then it's time to make a change.

Start Today: Feel More Satisfied with Life

Caring, kindness and generosity are the sunshine that can nurture beauty and well-being in yourself and those around you. Commit to them and commit to a happier future. It's simple; and here's how...

When Guilt is Good... and When It's Misplaced

Guilt can be good and appropriate. However, too frequently, people have a misplaced and unnecessary sense of guilt; a feeling they can end, freeing up more energy to help themselves and others.

Personal Change: Realistic Expectations With Positive Thinking

If there were a real psychological mirror you could look into as you assess your personal abilities (much like your car’s side mirror), it would likely have the following message etched in small letters at the bottom: Caution: You may not be as capable as you appear.

Nurture Happiness With Four Life-Changing Considerations

Self-awareness and compassion are often what’s needed for people to make personal changes within themselves and to lead a happy life. People naturally respond to their personal struggles with caring; and with a desire to come through them and to heal.

See Your Imperfect Self As Precious

Do you experience your struggles, mistakes, and imperfections as proof that you are lesser as a person? If so, consider learning to see your flawed self as wonderful.

Your Pay Raise: Does It Feel Like A Good Thing?

Some people are made less happy by a raise in pay. If you are one of those people, here are five paths to happiness.

Stand Up To Self-Bullying

Do you think of yourself as a nice and caring person to others; yet simultaneously criticize and push yourself mercilessly? Instead of continuing this self-destructive behavior, consider learning to treat yourself as well as you treat others; particularly when you are struggling or distressed.

The Right Questions Can Increase Life Satisfaction

"That’s just the way I am." This one belief is responsible for preventing innumerable people from feeling fulfilled. It imprisons them in lives where happiness is dictated by circumstance. But you can challenge this and create a more satisfying life by asking yourself the right questions.
Move Past Your Distress to a Happier Future

Move Past Your Distress to a Happier Future

With desperation, new patients often ask: "How can I get out of this pain?" Or, sometimes: "Can I get out of this pain?" In finally acquiescing to getting help, they learn what is true for us all—that the only way past chronic emotional pain is to go through it. Here's how to do it.

How to Feel Good When Things Go Bad

Life’s twists and turns can be scarier than any rollercoaster ride out there. Whether you are faced with a lost job, failed health, or personal rejection, such a blow can knock you off your feet. And you might find it almost impossible to get up, never mind feel good about moving on. But, you can get yourself up and back on a good path with self-affirmation.

Surviving And Thriving Through Adversity

The toe of my boot caught the door jam. SLAM. And, that was all it took to turn my immediate future upside down, in so many ways... Through it all, I have been reminded of, and have learned, some important lessons.

The One Word That Can Spur You On to Success

This past weekend, I attended a children’s orchestral program during which the conductor – Thomas Wilkins – emoted in a lively way about music. He also shared one of his favorite words, “yet.” As he explained it, this word can turn any struggle into hope.
The Power of Positive Thinking Revisited

The Power of Positive Thinking Revisited

People who view the world through rose-colored glasses are wonderfully optimistic, but their look-only-at-the-positive attitude sometimes sets them up for painful failure. A better way of using positive thinking is to focus on yourself – not your abilities or accomplishments – and to work toward an appreciation of you for just being who you are.

Dr. King and Inner Healing

As Dr. King said, “Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.” This is just as true when that enemy is harbored within.