Personal Growth 101: Letting Go of Self-Improvement

Too often striving to be a better person means rejecting the person you are. This can be demoralizing and undermine your motivation to make changes. But it doesn’t have to be this way. If you value who you are AND strive to improve, you will flourish as a person.

Don't Let Fear Stop You

You, like many people, may criticize yourself for being stopped by your fears. If you are tired of feeling beaten down by this, there is another option. You can kindly, but firmly, encourage yourself to face them. This compassionate approach can help you overcome your fears as it also helps you to feel good about yourself.

Anxious? Your Body May Be Trying to Tell You Something

Many people try to ignore, deny, or suppress their emotions. As an emotional energy builds within, they are unable to identify its source. The result? Anxiety. The cure? Increasing self-awareness and affect tolerance.

Your Anxiety Might Be a Healthy Sign

There is certainly a reason for all that anxiety you are feeling, but it may not be what you fear. Instead of being a symptom of something wrong, it might mean that your body is working well and trying to tell you something. It might mean that you need to slow down.

Learn to Take Back Control When Emotions Rise to Power

We’ve all had those times after a difficult situation when we’ve said, “I wish I had…” While being human involves having to face that we will always make mistakes, you don’t have to be at the whim of your emotions. You can learn to think more clearly even in the midst of powerful feelings.

No Longer Alone: How to Help Others "Get" You

If you are one of the many people who are “afflicted” with loneliness, it is extremely important that you know there is hope. You can help yourself to feel more connected to the world around you.

How to Slow Down Your Busy Life

If you feel overwhelmed by the pace of your life, it is time that you slow it all down and take back control. It will make your life better and you happier. You can do this by using four basic approaches.

Self-Motivate Successfully

Some people are masters of avoiding criticism; so much so that it’s the secret to their success. Unfortunately, such success is relatively hollow -- a temporary reprieve from the near constant challenges of proving themselves. There is a better way; an approach to success that allows people to be inherently motivated to pursue their dreams and enjoy the journey.

Hell Is No Place to Hang Out

If you are in emotional anguish, it is difficult to make it through each moment, never mind putting in the extra effort to drag yourself out of it. Yet, there are ways for you to find hope for a better future and to heal yourself.

I'll Ride With You

The kindness and courage of everyday Australians are an example of the power of loving actions in the face of anger and fear. They also light the way as examples of how you can better your life and the lives of those around you.

The Secret to Being the Person You Want to Be

Many people feel stuck in repeating old patterns, much as they might get stuck in a thicket. Each turn and attempt to get out only snags them more. If you feel this way in repeating problematic patterns, rest assured that there is a way out. With patience, diligence, and compassionate self-awareness, you can move on to a freer, happier life.

Want Better Relationships? Learn to Be More Empathic

People’s relationships often suffer because they get too caught up in their own experiences and in wanting to share their opinions with others. Your intentions may be good, but your efforts can weaken your connections. However, if you learn to be more empathic, your relationships will strengthen and you will be happier in them.

Softening Hardened Relationship Patterns

When dissatisfaction creeps into a relationship, the strength of such patterns can be a serious problem. However, you can change even the most stubborn patterns.

Leave Loneliness Behind in One Easy Step

Your smart phone gives you the sense of being connected to a world of people. Yet, you may still feel lonely. So, in response, you try to connect more – often reaching back through the same screen. You become engrossed in that little backlit rectangle, but you still don’t feel quite fulfilled in your relationships. It’s important for you to know that there is a better way.

Find Happiness Without Having to Change a Thing

Finding happiness is often not so much the end result of a focused quest as it is the manifestation of greater inner awareness. When you attend to and nourish that awareness, you will see the pathway to happiness unfold before you.

Yoga for the Mind

Life is not a smooth, easy road for anyone. Fortunately, though, you do not need to leave the way you experience it to chance. Instead, you can choose to engage in practices that increase your happiness, emotional resilience, and sense of inner peace

Is Your Relationship Just Right?

For a healthy, happy relationship, you must find a level of emotional intimacy that is not too distant and lonely, and not too close and suffocating. It must be “just right” for the two of you.

Summer Teaches Three Essential Lessons

It’s easy to get caught up in the hassles of daily life. That’s why it’s so important to attend to the lessons that summertime has to offer. Simply by paying attention, you can increase your sense of well-being as you get in tune with yourself, others, and the rhythm of life.

A Sure Path to Happiness

You can nurture a happier life by learning to attend better to the happiness that you already experience—no matter how small that experience is. By mindfully attending to your senses when they bring you joy, you are essentially choosing to walk through a door into a place of pleasure and appreciation.

Freeing Yourself From Love That Hurts

Many people remain in unsatisfying relationships or repeat problematic patterns over and over again. Their struggle is rooted in how they connect. Learn your inner models of how you perceive yourself and others and begin the journey to a happier love life.

Multi-Tasking: Your Greatest Asset and Greatest Liability

Life is busy. Really busy. So, multi-tasking seems like an inevitability. If you couldn’t multi-task, you’d be in trouble. Yet, multi-tasking can become your taskmaster, making you sick and unhappy. Fortunately, there is a way out of this bind.

Proper Perspective and the Happy Life

Imagine your ideal self – not the specific accomplishments you’d like to achieve, but the person you’d like to be. With the proper perspective in thinking about yourself and others, you can be that person. Of course, it also takes practice.

Fill Your Glass and Toast to Life

It can be easy to get caught and stay stuck in negative thinking. These negative thoughts and feelings can be part of a self-perpetuating cycle. You can break free by learning to pay attention to positive emotions.

Take That First, or Next, Step Toward Success

The initial blush of excitement that comes with a great idea can fade quickly when you realize the magnitude of what you want to do. Rather than give up, learn to alternate between a short and long view to stay motivated and succeed in attaining your goal.

Overcoming Loneliness

Loneliness is one of the most painful feelings a person can have, because people are wired to need a sense of connection. When you feel lonely, it can also lead you to perceive your life as meaningless and to have no hope for that to change. But there is hope. There are ways that you can survive through the pain and re-emerge feeling connected with others, accepting of you

Top Five Making Change Blog Posts

Read this post for a link to my top five Making Change blog posts and information about my upcoming book, Insecure in Love.

Think About This Before Making Your New Year's Resolution

Now is the time when people tend to reflect upon the past year and make promises to themselves for how they will be different in the coming one. While such New Year’s resolutions might improve your future, learning to appreciate your current life is even more important.

Eat Less, Enjoy It, and Have a Happy Thanksgiving

If the Thanksgiving dinner table is a battleground for you each year, it is time for a ceasefire. Find peace – and enjoy a wonderful meal – by developing a constructive inner dialogue.

Unhappy With You? How to Turn That Around

If you are unhappy with any or all aspects of yourself, you can become more of the person you want to be. The secret to getting on the right path is to begin with understanding yourself and your struggles better.

Accept Your Pain; It Will Hurt Less

When life hurts, you can be angry with your circumstance. You can be angry with yourself. But ignoring, denying, or railing against the problem will not resolve it. And aggravating over it will only cause you more suffering. There is another way—and it’s better.

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