After counseling countless adult adoptees in couple's therapy I've found that far too many are susceptible to choosing partners who will eventually abandon them. The choice is usually an unconscious one. After all, who'd knowingly marry someone who was going to leave them? But if adult adoptees can come to the realization that they may have a tendency to replicate the adoption process of being "given away," they might be better able to avoid choosing a partner that will someday leave them. If you're an adult adoptee here are eleven red flags that may indicate that a potential partner "may" one day put you back up for adoption:
Although some of these signs may not resonate with all adult adoptees, being more vigilant about potential losses may help to prevent replication.