Mars, Venus, and Infidelity 


Do men and women agree on the definition of infidelity?

The 3 Most Common Ways People Cheat on Their Partners

Are some types of infidelity more painful than others?

New Research Asks, “Does Why You Look at Porn Matter?”

A new study links “escapist porn use” to negative life consequences.

Treating Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Male sexual abuse is relatively common but also relatively ignored in American society (and elsewhere).

Teens and Sexting: Lifting Legal Sanctions

Should laws allow consensual sexting among minors?

Breaking the Porn Habit: Helpful Advice

Can you walk away from pornography?

Childhood Abuse

Is your dysfunctional childhood ruining your life?

Technology and Addiction Recovery

Can digital devices help you stay sober?

Nine Ways to Ruin Romance

Avoid these nine relationship blunders and you’re a lot less likely to ruin a perfectly good relationship that you’d really like to keep.

Sober Dating + Sober Sex = Less Drug and Alcohol Relapse

What should recovering alcoholics and former drug addicts keep in mind when pursuing romantic relationships?

12 Crucial Questions About Your Relationship's Future

Twelve criteria for evaluating a relationship

Three Dating and Mating New Year's Resolutions

Are You Tired of Being Single?

Surviving Work-Related Holiday Parties

Tips for Looking Good and Having Fun at the Company Party

Sex Addiction: Myths vs. Reality

The vast majority of properly trained sex addiction therapists recognize that sexual addiction is defined by out-of-control behaviors that are causing negative consequences.

Teen Sexting vs. Child Pornography

The simple truth is teen sexting is relatively common — a fact that really shouldn’t surprise anyone. I mean, weren’t we all teenagers once upon a time, with raging hormones and bad ideas and weird thoughts about what is and isn’t appropriate sexual behavior?

Protecting Your Kids (and Yourself) Online

Ideally, whether intended to protect kids or contain adults, parental control software will stop many online problems from happening. That said, these products do not guarantee smooth sailing. In reality, even the best software can’t stop everything. Plus, a persistent and tech-savvy user (of any age) can nearly always find ways to circumvent both the filtering and the acc

Book Review: Staci Sprout’s Naked in Public

The most important aspect of Naked in Public is that it presents a very real and much needed look at the pain and darkness of female sexual compulsivity, coupled with an equally real and necessary message of hope. Staci Sprout’s story is proof positive that recovery, healing, and a better life are possible.

Understanding Covert Incest: An Interview with Kenneth Adams

Over the years, my psychotherapeutic work has been heavily influenced by several groundbreaking clinicians, one of whom is Dr. Kenneth Adams. I recently had an opportunity to speak with Dr. Adams about his pioneering work, and I am happy to share excerpts of our conversation with you here.

The Opposite of Addiction is Connection

In an increasingly well-known TED Talk titled “Everything You Think You Know About Addiction is Wrong,” British journalist Johann Hari discusses the available research into the underlying causes of addiction and concludes, rather brilliantly, that the opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it’s connection.

7 Things You Need to Know If a Partner Betrayed You

Thanks to the recent Ashley Madison hack and data dump, countless unsuspecting spouses are learning they’ve been cheated upon by their significant other.

3 Common Excuses for Cheating (and Why They're Bogus)

After more than two decades as a psychotherapist specializing in human sexuality and intimacy, I’ve heard just about every excuse imaginable related to infidelity, especially from the men I have seen.

Marriage vs. Long-Term Affair: What If You Love Them Both?

You’ve been caught in a long-term affair, and your spouse has given you an ultimatum: “It’s him/her or me, so make up your mind.” What now? Do you stay in the marriage? Do you run off with your affair partner? Or do you try to somehow keep both relationships intact?

Why Millions of Cheating Spouses Could Soon Be Exposed

Most cheaters don’t expect to get caught. They tell lies, they keep secrets, and they cover their tracks. They control the flow of information received by their betrayed spouse, and then they run off and do what they want, when they want, with whomever they want - ignoring their marital vow of sexual fidelity and telling themselves they’re not hurting anyone.

Gay Marriage: Where Politics Meets Matters of the Heart

Well, now we’ve got marriage equality. And with it, we’ve also got marriage—with all of its ups and downs and psychological challenges.

What Turns Guys On? Understanding Male Sexual Desire

Unsurprisingly, a large body of research (and a good bit of common sense) supports the idea that male and female sexual arousal are very different.

What Are the Psychological Effects of Casual Sex?

Much of my audience is appalled by the fact that infidelity is so prevalent and that it has been so thoroughly monetized, while others simply shrug their shoulders and say things like, “People have been cheating since the beginning of time, so what’s the big deal?”

Understanding Nomophobia: Just Something Else to Worry About

My appreciation of the connection and conveniences offered by my smartphone might qualify as a pathology. That’s right folks, according to a recent study, I may have a disorder called nomophobia, which means that I get anxious, fearful and stressed out if and when I’m unable to access or use my smartphone.

Infidelity Goes Public

In 2001, entrepreneur Noel Biderman launched Ashley Madison, a dating/hookup website designed not to help single people meet, date and potentially fall in love, but to help people in established relationships engage in sexual infidelity.

Understanding Transgender Reality

In February, at the annual International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) symposium, I was honored to hear Ryan Sallans, an international speaker, transgender man and author of the book Second Son, speak.

Are You Having Enough Sex?

As a psychotherapist specializing in sexual and intimacy disorders, I can tell you that for a lot of individuals and couples the amount of sex they’re having (or not having) can be worrisome.

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