A new survey has found that people are confused over the definition of dating. While thoughts on cheating have relaxed a bit, passionately kissing someone other than one's love is looked upon as infidelity. As expected men and women have different points of view. I rarely report on online surveys because when it comes to infidelity, the definitive source is the General Social Survey from NORC at the University of Chicago. Dr. W. Bradford Wilcox, director, National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, has analyzed and reported on the data: Low Infidelity, Shock Statistics, and the Forgiveness Factor.
However, what is so intriguing about this new poll has to do with the ambiguity of dating and change of opinion on cheating. According to the online poll, some 2,647 singles between the ages of 18 and 59 were queried and 69 percent were unsure as to what constitutes a date. The poll was conducted by the Second Annual State of Dating in America(TM) Report which was commissioned by ChristianMingle.com and JDate.com.
Online poll results
As reported by the Wall Street Journal.
Regarding the methodology: According to the report respondents consisted of non-online daters and recruitment of online daters. Results were interpreted by Quonundrums which says it is accurate within ±3% confidence interval: State of Dating in America - Findings
Bias is often a problem with infidelity surveys
Four major problems arise when infidelity information is compiled:
Digital dating Pew Research and Online expert Julie Spira
According to a Pew Resaerch report issued in October 2013, it seems that 11 percent of adults and 38 percent of those currently looking for love have used online services: Dating digitally | Pew Internet & American Life Project.
If you are inclined to online dating, be safe -- turn to Julie Spira for guidelines: Cyber Dating Expert - Online Dating Expert - Dating Advice.
Problems with definition
Infidelity and Marriage - Deal Breaker or Wake-Up Call? -- comprised of interviews with marriage therapists and scientists analyzing the GSS and funded in part by the National Science Foundation --notes that definitions and exact numbers, in this day and age of marital infidelity, emotional infidelity and financial infidelity, might be confusing.
Looking for love
As an incurable romantic here are some thoughts on taking a personal approach to finding someone special.
Get out there and meet people. Join volunteer organizations. Sign up for courses at museums or colleges. Take up golf or sailing. Make an effort to meet a person who makes you feel good about yourself.
If you do meet someone, even if not perfect, but who is kind and generous with a trusting circle of friends, have the courage to ask early on, “Are you ready for a serious relationship, because I am?”
If this scares that person away, love yourself enough to move on without fretting. Why? Because one day, when you ask that question, the right person will answer, “Yes, I am.”
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