As photos capture the story of baby Prince George and his glowing mother, Catherine Duchess of Cambridge, we are reminded of the fairy tales. Who can forget days when young girls swirled about to words of the song, “Some Day My Prince Will Come.” While Kate Middleton is now a duchess married to Prince William, very few women will marry into royalty.
The top answers to meeting one’s soul-mate include love at first sight, dating a person who shares your values, or taking a page from Oprah’s magazine and creating the 100 point perfect mate list.
Add to the love tips a new book on creating happiness and you have a sensible blueprint to pave the way for commitment. Dr. Rick Hanson is a neuropsychologist whose latest work is Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence. At Psychology Today he is author of Your Wise Brain
The calm aspect he talks of can help save many relationships. Imagine that instead of letting sparks fly you find the inner strength to create peace.
How does one find love?
But how do you meet that special someone in the first place? Love at first sight still happens. Matt Damon met his wife, Luciana, in a Miami bar and the couple recently renewed their vows in a million-dollar ceremony.
Creating the 100 point wish list was a recommendation by Alice Gorman several years ago in O Magazine. This list should be so complete that you are encouraged to write out wishes from physical appearance to qualities to how he will dress. Yes, down to the color of his socks. How to Find Love - Do Magic Lists Work? - Oprah.com. At the end, Martha Beck, O's life coach, explains why it works.
Secrets for sustaining love
Despite a society in which the divorce rate hovers at 50 percent, we still want to believe in romance. Some thoughts for keeping love alive include:
Bill Moyers added: “The Puritans call marriage the little church within the church.
In marriage, every day you love, and every day you forgive. It is an ongoing sacrament — love and forgiveness.”
Your love story
Robert Sternberg, Ph.D., while at Yale’s psychology department, pointed out that a love relationship between two people follows a story, oftentimes a story we created as children. If we find that our stories do not turn out happily, he suggests rewriting them. Dr. Sternberg is currently president of the University of Wyoming.
Here is a twist on a love story for couples. Remind yourself as to why you fell in love and retell the story to each other. Embellish it. Fill it with romance. Add little forgotten aspects and wishes that you can now make come true.
Make your love story a commitment to each other. Writing or rewriting it together can turn your relationship into a lifelong adventure.
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