Reports about a recent study claim that people living alone are more depressed than those living with others. However, no one was asked how depressed they felt. Plus, the design of the study could not possibly support claims about what causes what.
If you listen to people talk about their divorce just months after it happened, some seem to want to punish themselves whereas others show themselves more compassion and recognize that painful times are part of the human experience. Nine months later, one of the groups is still doing better than the other.
I wonder whether women who are single – perhaps especially if they are single and accomplished – are especially likely get under Limbaugh’s skin. Undeterred by the flight of advertisers no longer willing to be associated with his war on women, Rush recently went on to disparage still another successful single woman.
The writer of a popular blog claims that women who choose to live single are not really happy, but are just deluded cat ladies “hamsterwheeling” in a futile attempt to escape their “nagging sense of disappointment.”
Living alone, living with friends, living with a partner, living with family, and all the other endless permutations and possibilities – are different options more appealing at different times in your life?
A Washington Post reporter talks at length with single men and women past a certain age who wanted to marry but never did. Rather than hearing tales of woe, she discovers that they have lived, as one woman put it, a “full, rich, interesting life.”
Two things: (1) We live alone because we want to and because we can. (2) A survey in the Washington Post invites single people to describe their experiences. Go have your say. It is good to be asked what we think.
“America is coming apart,” argues an author. Our national downfall could be reversed, he claims, if honest, hard-working married people got out of their non-judgmental cocoons and lived among the others.
As of two days ago, we now know the answer to this question: Is the “intensive coupling” that married people sometimes practice limited to the first few years of marriage? Do couples go back to spending more time with family and friends as they settle into their relationship?
Pundits are supposed to be skeptical and critical. Candidates for the highest office in the land should be attuned to the characteristics of their constituencies. So how did they all miss out on the possible perspective of more than 100 million voting-age Americans?
People who are most often stereotyped, rather than getting beaten down by that relentless aversive experience, instead seem to develop special coping skills. They end up more resilient, rather than less so.
Two evolutionary psychologists put into perspective the current practice of intensive coupling, the supposed superiority of coupled people, and the myth that what all singles want, more than anything else, is to become unsingle.
Purveyors of matrimania are busy trying to persuade singles that they will never be truly happy or complete or worthy unless they marry. Perhaps, though, people who actually are married are noticing something different.
So many stories that are supposedly about single people begin with a consideration of the marriage market. But the number of available partners, and their quality, doesn’t matter if you are not interested in marrying.
In this guest post, author and singles scholar E. Kay Trimberger reflects on her reading of the Atlantic story, “All the single ladies,” and describes how single life has been different for her than it is for the current generation.
In the spirit of the book, Singled Out, Living Single is a myth-busting, consciousness-raising, totally unapologetic take on single life. At this blog, we discuss just about everything about single life -- except dating!