Living Alone Is a Sign of Success – for the Individual and for Society

Two things: (1) We live alone because we want to and because we can. (2) A survey in the Washington Post invites single people to describe their experiences. Go have your say. It is good to be asked what we think.

This Book Will Change Our Lives

I don’t think I’ve ever said this about a book: “Going Solo” will become a classic. People will still be reading it decades from now.

Married Man’s Burden: Charles Murray’s Prescription for a Better America

“America is coming apart,” argues an author. Our national downfall could be reversed, he claims, if honest, hard-working married people got out of their non-judgmental cocoons and lived among the others.

Newt Gingrich’s Marital Hypocrisy Goes beyond His Self-Righteous Rant – and the Hypocrisy Is Not Specific to Him

Is it really fair for Newt Gingrich to say, judge me by this one marriage but not those two? Judge me by these family members but not those?

Is Cohabitation Bad for You? Answers from a 6-Year Study

Cohabitors differ from married people in self-esteem, happiness, health, and the time they spend with friends. Make your predictions, then read this post to see how you fared.

Slighting Friends and Family: Do Couples Become Less Couple-y Over Time?

As of two days ago, we now know the answer to this question: Is the “intensive coupling” that married people sometimes practice limited to the first few years of marriage? Do couples go back to spending more time with family and friends as they settle into their relationship?

Singles Year in Review, Part 2: The Bad and the Ugly

In the year 2011, singlism and matrimania marched on; both were practiced by plenty of people who should know better. It was also a year when single men were in for special ridicule.

What Kind of a Year Has It Been for Single People? Part 1: The Good Stuff

Part 1 in a series of posts looking back at 2011 and what it meant for people who are single. This one is about the highlights.

A Spouse for Christmas?

Pundits are supposed to be skeptical and critical. Candidates for the highest office in the land should be attuned to the characteristics of their constituencies. So how did they all miss out on the possible perspective of more than 100 million voting-age Americans?

Most Talked-About Living Single Posts for 2011

Most stumbled upon, “liked,” commented on, and tweeted Living Single posts from the year 2011

Single-at-Heart in Holland

Several hundred Dutch social psychologists cannot be wrong. (I hope.)

More Teen Sex at Home and Fewer Pregnancies: Here’s Where It Happens

When teen sexuality is normalized rather than dramatized, all hell does not break loose.

Writing a Script for Single at Heart—Really, There Could Be a TV Show

The Atlantic story, “All the Single Ladies,” has been optioned for a TV show. Give the screenwriters some great tips for creating a compelling show that is not the same old same old.

Big-Time Liars: Top 7 Lies They Tell Themselves

The many big-time liars in the news have lured me off topic from the usual Living Single themes. Here’s some of what I’ve learned about the lies that big-time liars tell themselves.

The Special Skills of People Who Are Always Getting Stereotyped

People who are most often stereotyped, rather than getting beaten down by that relentless aversive experience, instead seem to develop special coping skills. They end up more resilient, rather than less so.

Single Women in 1960s and 1970s TV: What Should We Make of Their Relationships?

What would count as a realistic portrayal of the relationships of single women? Did 1960s and 1970s TV do it better than today’s shows?

Can the Rise of Singles and the Urge-to-Merge Coexist?

Two evolutionary psychologists put into perspective the current practice of intensive coupling, the supposed superiority of coupled people, and the myth that what all singles want, more than anything else, is to become unsingle.

Undateable: Guest Post by Elliott Lewis

Friends or lovers? Guest blogger Elliott Lewis tells his personal story and reflects on possible differences between men and women in the desire to be lovers vs. friends.

What Counts as Normal?

In a wonderful book with a telling title, Sex is Not a Natural Act, psychiatry professor and former sex columnist Leonore Tiefer spelled out five meanings of “normal.”

Marriage Angst: Are Single People the Cause?

Purveyors of matrimania are busy trying to persuade singles that they will never be truly happy or complete or worthy unless they marry. Perhaps, though, people who actually are married are noticing something different.

ISO: A Blockbuster Story about Single Life that is Not Primarily about Marriage

So many stories that are supposedly about single people begin with a consideration of the marriage market. But the number of available partners, and their quality, doesn’t matter if you are not interested in marrying.

Drifting into Singleness: Guest Post by Kay Trimberger

In this guest post, author and singles scholar E. Kay Trimberger reflects on her reading of the Atlantic story, “All the single ladies,” and describes how single life has been different for her than it is for the current generation.

A Personal History of a Passion for Single Life and Singles Advocacy

Here’s the short version of how I ended up so devoted to creating positive change for people who are single.

Revenge of the Single Ladies!

On the cover of the November 2011 issue of the Atlantic is the question, “What, me marry?” and Kate Bolick’s story is titled, "All the single ladies." It has already been featured in two segments of the Today show.

What You Miss by Doing What Everyone Else Does

Following the conventional life path can be comfortable, but are you missing out on creating the life that works best for you?

Not Monitored, Not Judged – One of the True Joys of Living Solo?

I don’t think I do anything all that embarrassing when I’m home alone. Yet I like the fact that no one else is around to monitor or judge me. Is that unusual?

Accused of Doing Something Awful? Here’s How to Convince Others of Your Innocence

If you are accused of something seriously bad and you want to persuade others of your innocence, is it best to flat out deny the accusation?

Collected Wisdom About Single Life: Your Thoughts

Among the contributions to the wisdom collected here: experiences of internalized singlism, living single at different ages, reactions to people who ask about why you are single, and more.

The Best of Single Life: Lessons from More than a Decade of Study and a Lifetime of Experience

“Best of single life” lists too often focus on the small stuff. Here are some of the more profound experiences and rewards of single life.

“So Sorry You’re Still Married”: New Anniversary Card Greeting?

Can you imagine a Mother’s Day card or media story that just assumed that anyone who is a mother must be depressed about it? That’s what some Singles Week stories are like.