At the Washington Post Wonkblog, usually great at evidence-based arguments, a contributor gets tripped up – perhaps by matrimania – and ends up making a claim about getting married and getting happy that he knows he can’t make. He got it at the beginning of the piece, but by the end, he lost his mind.
The advice to undergraduate Princeton women to hurry up and get married – to Princeton men – has been thoroughly mocked and ridiculed. There are, though, a few things left to say: about the author’s attitude, about how she establishes her “facts,” and about one thing I actually think she got right.
In 2010, when a California judge struck down Prop 8, the anti-gay-marriage proposition, the arguments he used were actually arguments for singles’ rights. Of course, that reading went unrecognized. The same thing is happening in the arguments before the Supreme Court now.
Looking back over 5 years of writing the Living Single blog, I collect the most popular posts that were on-topic and the most popular of the off-topic articles. I also ‘fess up about the post that was the biggest loser, and describe some surprises as to what does and does not interest Living Single readers.
Once single people are in the majority and put their stamp on things, the world will be a better place. Guest blogger Eleanore Wells points out 11 such improvements, ranging from how we live to how we shop to who counts as family and what policies will rule the land.
In 18 studies, people reported their happiness or satisfaction starting before they got married and continuing for years afterwards. Getting married did not change people’s happiness. Around the time of the wedding, people who got married and stayed married reported an increase in life satisfaction, but it did not last. Satisfaction with their partner decreased over time.
Here are some great quotes about single life. If you are expecting the usual (e.g., “marriage is a great institution, but I’m not ready to be institutionalized”), you are in for a surprise. Take a look at these, then share your own favorites.
It is not just single people who sometimes want to travel on their own. In an important article in the New York Times, a reporter urges companies to drop the single supplement and start catering to solo travelers. She also lists cruises and tours that are on the way to offering solo travelers the same great deals offered to everyone else.
Amidst all of the discussion of the official forms of discrimination against singles, there is, suggests guest blogger Diane Torre, an under-appreciation of varieties of singlism that plague singles in everyday life. Hurtful comments and unkind assumptions about people who are single are rampant, and perpetrators are not self-conscious about acting in these cruel ways.
Several recent media stories have claimed that women’s choices not to have kids “may spell disaster for the country.” What interests me are the psychological approaches the authors take to coaxing women to have kids.
There’s lots of angst these days about the state of the squishy sciences. What does it mean when different studies produce conflicting findings? What if one point of view has more emotion and more resources behind it? What can journalists do to write more accurate stories?
Eric Klinenberg, author of “Going Solo,” talks about the myths about living alone, the unrecognized care work done by single people, the responses to his book over the past year, whether singletons will start getting the attention they deserve, and more.
From a wide-ranging media landscape, from scholars and pundits and a Supreme Court justice, there is a newly-popular theme in the discussion of single life. It is a respectful and even celebratory theme, which acknowledges the strengths, joys, meaningfulness, and advantages of single life.
Today, the Atlantic Magazine published the definitive documentation of the high price of single life. Lisa Arnold and Christina Campbell calculated the singles penalty in income taxes, Social Security, housing, health spending, and more. It is a tour de force by our friends from Onely. Don’t let anyone whine about a so-called marriage penalty ever again.
If we compare the stereotyping and stigmatizing and discrimination against single people to an analogous bias against married people, there is really no comparison. Discrimination against single people is written into more than 1,000 federal laws. Plus, I set the record straight on the true definition of singlism.
Single-at-heart, solo living, single-again, single parenting, not having kids, hooking up, Rush’s attack on single women, eschewing monogamy, and more, were all buzzy topics this year at Living Single.
In an experiment, half of the participants were instructed to post more Facebook status updates than they usually do. Do you think that made them more or less lonely than the people who posted their usual number of updates? What if no one responded to their updates?
There are widespread beliefs that monogamous relationships are superior in many ways to consensually non-monogamous relationships. Social scientists are beginning to test those assumptions, and they sometimes end up unimpressed.
In the spirit of the book, Singled Out, Living Single is a myth-busting, consciousness-raising, totally unapologetic take on single life. At this blog, we discuss just about everything about single life -- except dating!