How many single people really choose to be single? That’s a question I am asked fairly often, typically by people who are skeptical that even one person would really want to live outside of Married Couples Land.
There are at least 16 reasons to mark National Unmarried and Single Americans Week. If the week does not get hijacked by matrimaniacs, we can help change the way the nation understands what “single” means.
On the average, the health and happiness and self-esteem of single people is just fine, and often a lot better than just fine. Some single people, though, are relatively more vulnerable to singles-bashing messaging, and others are more resilient.
American culture is obsessed with romance. But if you are a 20-something year old looking into the future, your skills at friendship are going to be more important than any romantic success. Here’s the evidence.
Research suggests that a perfect stranger is more likely than Huma Abedin to know when Anthony Weiner is lying and when he is telling the truth. Not that I care. I want to base my judgments of the candidate on the candidate, and not on the testimonials of the candidate’s spouse.
Discussions of the death of Trayvon Martin have included impassioned denials of racism and discrimination – not only in that case but more generally. There are powerful motivations behind the denial and explaining away of all sorts of isms, including singlism. Even those who are targets of discrimination have reasons not to acknowledge what is happening.
An article at The Atlantic, “The secret to Finland’s success with schools, moms, kids—and everything,” claims that “Finns have incredible equality and very little poverty.” Unmentioned in the article is the unusually high risk of poverty among people living alone.
From Diane Marty’s guest post: “Those of us raised in the self-sacrificial Christian tradition were taught to suppress individual desires during the coupled years when the needs of the conjoined entity, the couple, are paramount. But I was another entity now—a widowed, newly single-again woman, uncoupled and free to make new choices.”
More than a dozen singles bloggers talk about maintaining their independence while also forging and maintaining meaningful human connections. Not all of them achieved what they were after the first time around. Plus, other research and riffs on in(ter)dependence.
How is it that some single people become motivated to really do something about all the singlism and matrimania? Christina Campbell and Lisa A. of Onely.org answer 7 questions about their experiences at consciousness-raising and their quest for social justice for single people.
A new study uses behavioral genetics to try to make the claim that getting married results in physical and mental health benefits. The authors had to concede that getting married did nothing for physical health. I explain why I don’t buy their claims for the small effects they did find.
An article with the title, “Doomed to be single?”, raises questions about why people think it is just fine to publish, unapologetically, blanket condemnations of single life. What happens if we turn the tables?
In an important review paper based on data from many thousands of people, Maria Hartwig and Charles Bond showed why humans are so bad at detecting lies. It turns out that the most popular theory – among laypersons as well as academics – is wrong.
Have you been accused of playing the race card or the victim card or any other such card? Research shows that people are very harsh in what they say about people who claim discrimination—even if it is clear that the people in question really did experience discrimination. Maybe making the race-card accusation says more about the accuser than it does about the target.
What do college-educated American women have in common with Merida from the movie Brave, Diane Lockhart of The Good Wife, Kate Beckett of Castle, Alex Blake of Criminal Minds, and Bridget Jones? Should they be proud?
If people who are not married acted more like married people in one particular way – by living with another adult – would they be healthier? Does it depend on whether the unmarried person is divorced or widowed or has always been single? Is it naïve to assume that married people are healthier, regardless of living situations?
A 20-year study that followed people into old age found that some who were objectively isolated were not at all lonely, and others who were not at all isolated were lonely. Who were these people? What were their lives like?
In the late 1800s, Durkheim said that married people are less likely to commit suicide than people who are not married. In the 21st century, that claim still echoes through the media. But we have better studies now, analyzed more rigorously. If you are looking for people especially likely to kill themselves, don’t look at people who have always been single.
In the spirit of the book, Singled Out, Living Single is a myth-busting, consciousness-raising, totally unapologetic take on single life. At this blog, we discuss just about everything about single life -- except dating!