From a wide-ranging media landscape, from scholars and pundits and a Supreme Court justice, there is a newly-popular theme in the discussion of single life. It is a respectful and even celebratory theme, which acknowledges the strengths, joys, meaningfulness, and advantages of single life.
Today, the Atlantic Magazine published the definitive documentation of the high price of single life. Lisa Arnold and Christina Campbell calculated the singles penalty in income taxes, Social Security, housing, health spending, and more. It is a tour de force by our friends from Onely. Don’t let anyone whine about a so-called marriage penalty ever again.
If we compare the stereotyping and stigmatizing and discrimination against single people to an analogous bias against married people, there is really no comparison. Discrimination against single people is written into more than 1,000 federal laws. Plus, I set the record straight on the true definition of singlism.
Single-at-heart, solo living, single-again, single parenting, not having kids, hooking up, Rush’s attack on single women, eschewing monogamy, and more, were all buzzy topics this year at Living Single.
In an experiment, half of the participants were instructed to post more Facebook status updates than they usually do. Do you think that made them more or less lonely than the people who posted their usual number of updates? What if no one responded to their updates?
There are widespread beliefs that monogamous relationships are superior in many ways to consensually non-monogamous relationships. Social scientists are beginning to test those assumptions, and they sometimes end up unimpressed.
People can be very judgmental about how they think other people should spend the holidays. Even those advice columns that are supposedly even-handed often have different standards for people who are single vs. coupled.
NY Times columnist David Brooks argues that people are better off when they “bind themselves” to two-parent families. He thinks that laws should discriminate in favor of “family formation and fertility.” I’ll take him on with data.
Usually, I decide for myself what to write about here, but every so often, a story shows up in my inbox so many times that I feel that I have no choice but to share it. An essay in the BBC News Magazine is a recent example.
A recent report shows that single people are not as far along in their retirement planning as married people are. Here are some big-picture answers to why that is and what can be done, and not just with regard to money.
Does it matter that movies and TV shows are awash in matrimania? Is there any link between watching these shows – or believing in the messages they convey about romantic relationships – and how people in romantic relationships feel about their real relationships?
Did you think the issue of choice was missing from last night’s debate? Actually, we heard about a different kind of choice, one that has probably been missing from all Presidential debates throughout history.
A New York Times reporter interviewed experts on marriage, asking them for their suggestions for making it stronger. I’ll tell you about some of them here. First, though, guess what suggestion none of the experts offered.
A recent post asking whether you really do want lifelong singlehood, or whether you are just fooling yourself, is a throw-back to the 1950s. The authors repeat the usual bogus claims about marriage, and seem oblivious to contemporary critical thinking about marriage and single life.
In 2004, I wrote an op-ed in the New York Times about the caricaturing and dismissive ways that single people were being treated in the Presidential campaign. Now, it is not just single people who are under assault.
A story of four single men who have been living together for nearly two decades is also a story about the living arrangements of our 21st century lives, and how we find our place, our space, and our people.
In the spirit of the book, Singled Out, Living Single is a myth-busting, consciousness-raising, totally unapologetic take on single life. At this blog, we discuss just about everything about single life -- except dating!