The Top 10 Ways Couples Have Changed

In some significant ways, over the past three-quarters of a century, couples have been acting more like single people.

The Joys of Not Doing What You Are Supposed To

In his review of "How We Live Now: Redefining Home & Family in the 21st C" in the L.A. Review of Books, Hugh Ryan told me what I've been doing with my life the last two decades.

Love of Single Life: The Quintessential Modern Love?

At a time when there are more than 100 million single people just in the US, there are still people denying that any of them could be truly happy. Research shows that people get angry at single people who choose to be single. What's that about?

The Day I Played Against Yogi Berra, and He Let Me Win

Many years ago, George Plimpton chose me to play on his team of fans. We took on the Mickey Mantle All-Stars in Yankee Stadium, and Mantle, Whitey Ford, Yogi Berra and the rest of the team let us win.

19 Reasons Why We Need National Singles Week

National Unmarried and Single Americans Week is a celebration of single people and a way of recognizing their contributions as friends, workers, volunteers, and neighbors.

The Problem of the Self-Loathing Single Person

In one brief essay, a nationally syndicated columnist ascribed some of the nastiest stereotypes about single people to himself, and perpetuated a long list of myths about the purported superiority of married people and their children. Science doesn't support his self-loathing or his singlism.

Single and Lonely? The Truth May Be Exactly the Opposite.

Who is most likely to maintain social ties with parents, siblings, friends, and neighbors? Who is likely to help those people and receive help from them? Is it married people? Previously married people? People who have always been single? The answer is always the same, and it comes from nationally representative surveys.

The Good Reasons Why Some People Are Happy Being Single

Researchers got a lot of attention for showing that single people who like to avoid conflict in their relationships are just as happy as coupled people, and happier than singles who don't care about avoiding conflict. But those are grudging reasons for being happily single. Here are some research-based positive reasons.

How to Have a Husband on the Side

What if you are married with kids, but you don't consider your spouse the most important person in your life? How can you arrange your life to honor the people you care about most, and also maintain the important place of both parents in the lives of the kids?

Who Are Those People Living Under the Same Roof?

A new and unheralded trend – people who are living with all sorts of other people who are not their spouse or romantic partner.

Snacking on Single People – Such Yummy Stereotypes!

An article about American snacking put the blame for bad eating habits on "lonely single people." Just about every single thing that was stated or implied about single people in that article was unsubstantiated, misleading, egregiously derogatory, or just plain wrong.

Alone in a Crowd: There's Something Special About It

In a compelling section of New York Magazine, New Yorkers describe what's so appealing about being alone in the city, whether at the movies or on the subway or in restaurants or just about anywhere else. It is a refreshing change from all the angst about loneliness.

Why So Many Partners Want to Be Both Together and Single

After decades in which living single has been stereotyped and stigmatized, is it now becoming something that even couples want a piece of?

7 Kinds of Marriages – and One Awesome Alternative

Actually, success in marriage isn't all about communication and intimacy and negotiating conflict. You and your partner need to decide what you want to get out of your marriage. Here are 7 very different kinds of marriage goals. Alternatively, embrace your single life!

10 Ways the Children of Single Parents Defy All Stereotypes

Here are 10 stereotype-defying scientifically-based facts about the children of single parents. Sometimes they do even better than the children of married parents. How is that possible?

Let's Start a Community of Single People

Many single people (and singles activists) want to be in touch with other single people who like their single lives. Reporters are often looking for singles to interview. Professionals working with singles want enlightened resources. Let's create a community of single people that's not about dating.

Craving Time Alone, and Privacy at Home

A huge proportion of Americans want to have at least some time when they are completely alone, away from everyone else.

Gay Marriage Ruling Is Matrimaniacal, Shames Single People

It is possible to expand the scope of social justice without declaring one class of people superior and derogating another. The SCOTUS ruling on same-sex marriage failed in that respect. We are all supposed to be equal under the law.

9 Proven Strategies for Healthy Weight Without Dieting

The best way to achieve your "leanest livable weight" is to forsake dieting. These strategies are based on social science research, not some bogus fad.

America Is a Singles Nation, Or Is It?

The latest in a series of cover stories about the rise of single people declares that the U.S. is a "singles nation." I love that idea. But is it really true? Here are some criteria for what a true singles nation would look like.

11 Reasons Never to Shame Anyone

When people behave badly (or when we think they do), we are often tempted to shame them. From psychological research, though, we have learned that what happens to people who are shamed can be quite dire.

Saying No: the Most Affirming and Authentic Thing You Can Do

The "Affirmative No" is "the refusal to pursue a course of action that, on serious reflection, you discover is not right for you." It can be the most important, affirming, and authentic act of your life.

How to Talk to a Single Person

Some people seem to have a hard time conversing with single people. All they can think of to ask is whether the single person is seeing someone. Even worse, researchers can be just as flummoxed. A survey claiming to be "the most comprehensive" about single life asked only about 1 question of 128 that was not about becoming unsingle. Here's how to talk to a single person.

Single Mothers and Their Health, Around the World

A much-publicized study claimed that single mothers are at risk for poor health. Here's a less credulous analysis, starting with the fact that in many countries, there is no difference whatsoever between the health of the single and married mothers, and continuing with the actual factors that make a difference.

Singles in Finland – No Shrinking Violets!

Finland is a small country with a very big place for single people. An astonishing 42 percent of all households in Finland are comprised of single people living alone (and not all single people live alone). Here's what they say they need and deserve.

We Have It All Wrong About Lonely People

A set of just-published studies shows that lonely people have social skills that are just as good, or even better, than those of non-lonely people. But certain social situations make lonely people anxious, and that anxiety undermines the skills that are there for them when they are not worried.

Who Is Divorce Toughest On?

There are big differences among people in how well they do after getting divorced. A recent review article suggested 5 ways that resilient people differ from those who have the hardest time.

Sex Drive? There's No Such Thing

The notion of a sex drive is probably one of the most widely accepted ideas in popular culture and beyond. But there are scientific standards for what counts as a drive, and in her new book, "Come as You Are," Emily Nagoski argues that sex doesn't meet them.

Spinster is the New Black

Single people are having a moment. Articles are popping up everywhere about ways of living fully and joyfully outside of marriage and nuclear families. Suddenly, spinster is the new black. The question is, who gets to wear it?

When Your Personal, Private Choices Enrage Others

Why do perfect strangers react to some of our most personal choices with anger and attempts to stigmatize us for them? "Otherhood" author Melanie Notkin, historian Elaine Tyler May, environmentalist Bill McKibben, "Childless by Choice" project director Laura S. Scott, and I share our thoughts about the matter.