The Future of Family Lies in the Hands of Single People

Americans are creating family in an unprecedented number of ways, and single people are taking the lead.

Where Are Our Singles Studies Programs?

An endowed chair in transgender studies, the first in the world, has just been created. Here's what's still missing.

Single in America: 6 Cutting Edge Perspectives, 2 Others

If only the first 6 invited experts contributed, it would have been 1 of the most insightful and respectful set of articles about single life ever to appear in a major publication

Here's the Article I've Always Wanted to Write

Here's my briefest, most compelling case for why all those claims about the transformative power of getting married are wrong.

Everything You Always Wanted to Know about Single Life

What would you like to know about single people or single life? You will probably find answers here.

The Most Beautiful Embrace of Solitude and Single Life

The most beautiful expression of the single-at-heart sentiment was written nearly 200 years ago by the poet John Keats.

Your Status as a Single Person Is a Diversity Issue

Here's why unmarried status is a diversity issue. In this article, I focus on the workplace.

My Singles Agenda

Enough with the stereotyping and discrimination against single people. We need resources to support enlightened thinking, research, and writing about single life.

Watching TV: Why We Love to Binge

There's a psychology to binge-watching TV—and writers, directors, and other masters of emotional engagement have us hooked.

Is This the Missing Piece in the Happiness Puzzle?

One of the important pieces of the puzzle of human happiness is almost entirely missing from the proliferation of writings on the topic: consideration of our physical space.

In 2015, Single People Were Both Celebrated and Shamed

There were some big steps forward in 2015 for single people. But there were also some big embarrassments – not for single people but the people talking about them in clueless ways.

The Community No One Knew We Needed

The Community of Single People is a Facebook group for people who want to discuss every aspect of single life except dating and trying to become unsingle. We needed it.

Readers' Favorite Living Single Posts: 2015

This year, the theme of balancing time alone and time together takes its place alongside the more predictable favorite topics such as happiness, meaningfulness, and sex.

You Have No Right to Be Single

Single people should have the right to be single that is equivalent to the right to be married. But they don't. Not even close.

No, Single People: Your Lives Are Not Second Rate

No, single people, your lives are not second rate. That's not what the science shows. Claims about the superiority of marriage are often based on massively flawed studies, and ignore research showing something else entirely.

Our Families: What's Missing?

In this guest post, sociologist Joshua Gamson takes a look at the beautifully produced Tylenol ads celebrating family diversity, and explores what's missing or hidden.

What's More Important Than Happiness?

One brilliant person's criteria for the good life and reasons for departing from the single story line about how to live.

How You Can Tell that Deep Down, Solitude Is Your Thing

A wildly popular article identified 10 signs that you are perfectly happy with solitude. Most of them were spot-on. But the author got it wrong about the kinds of people focused primarily on fulfilling their own needs.

The Stunning Appeal of a Story About a Man Who Died Alone

The New York Times published an extraordinarily long and wildly popular story of a man who died alone, undiscovered until a neighbor smelled his rotting body. What was the story really about? Why were readers so drawn to it?

Can Married People Be Happy?

At the 2015 Aspen Ideas Festival, 5 "experts" were asked a stunningly stupid and offensive question. They all answered it without protest. Not one of them seemed to realize that there was anything wrong with it.

What You Really Need to Know About Spotting Liars

You don't need anyone to tell you about secret cues to deception. You are probably already using most of the cues you should be using and ignoring the ones you should be ignoring. Here's why reading more about cues won't help much, and what actually could be helpful.

The Top 10 Ways Couples Have Changed

In some significant ways, over the past three-quarters of a century, couples have been acting more like single people.

The Joys of Not Doing What You Are Supposed To

In his review of "How We Live Now: Redefining Home & Family in the 21st C" in the L.A. Review of Books, Hugh Ryan told me what I've been doing with my life the last two decades.

Love of Single Life: The Quintessential Modern Love?

At a time when there are more than 100 million single people just in the US, there are still people denying that any of them could be truly happy. Research shows that people get angry at single people who choose to be single. What's that about?

The Day I Played Against Yogi Berra, and He Let Me Win

Many years ago, George Plimpton chose me to play on his team of fans. We took on the Mickey Mantle All-Stars in Yankee Stadium, and Mantle, Whitey Ford, Yogi Berra and the rest of the team let us win.

19 Reasons Why We Need National Singles Week

National Unmarried and Single Americans Week is a celebration of single people and a way of recognizing their contributions as friends, workers, volunteers, and neighbors.

The Problem of the Self-Loathing Single Person

In one brief essay, a nationally syndicated columnist ascribed some of the nastiest stereotypes about single people to himself, and perpetuated a long list of myths about the purported superiority of married people and their children. Science doesn't support his self-loathing or his singlism.

Single and Lonely? The Truth May Be Exactly the Opposite.

Who is most likely to maintain social ties with parents, siblings, friends, and neighbors? Who is likely to help those people and receive help from them? Is it married people? Previously married people? People who have always been single? The answer is always the same, and it comes from nationally representative surveys.

The Good Reasons Why Some People Are Happy Being Single

Researchers got a lot of attention for showing that single people who like to avoid conflict in their relationships are just as happy as coupled people, and happier than singles who don't care about avoiding conflict. But those are grudging reasons for being happily single. Here are some research-based positive reasons.

How to Have a Husband on the Side

What if you are married with kids, but you don't consider your spouse the most important person in your life? How can you arrange your life to honor the people you care about most, and also maintain the important place of both parents in the lives of the kids?