Living alone is one of my things, so "best things about living alone" lists can lure me in the way most other listicles cannot. I've read lots of them. But here's the thing: I think they are for lightweights. And I think they are written by people who, deep down inside, do not really get it about the profound fulfillment of the solo-dwelling life. It's different for those of us who really mean it about wanting to live alone.
All of these kinds of things are perfectly fine reasons for enjoying the experience of living alone. But if they are the only kinds of reasons you like having a place of your own, then maybe you are not that serious about it. The reasons have a kind of defensiveness to them, as if you are trying to convince yourself that you really do like living alone. The reasons are mostly about freedom from constraints (you don't have to wear clothes, you don't have to share) and when they are about freedom to do things (stay up as long as you want), what is enabled by that freedom is trivial (watch reruns of Frasier).
I like watching TV as much as the next person, but the freedom to do so is not among the most profound rewards of staying up as long as you want. Think about people who are really passionate about what they do. When they get engrossed in whatever it is that really grabs them – whether it is writing music or solving an intriguing problem or creating something or anything else – they love the freedom to just keep going. It is a joy to stay engaged, to go for hours without ever wondering about the time, to be free of concern about what some other person in the house thinks of you or wishes you were doing instead.
That's one of the real rewards of solo living for those who really mean it about wanting to live alone. Here are a few others:
Are you someone who means it about loving to live alone? If so, what are some non-trivial, non-defensive, non-wimpy reasons why it is so fulfilling to you?
[Note: Links to my other writings about living alone are here.]