I like to write empowering, research-based articles on living single, including living single with no kids. Despite the pervasive and persistent stereotyping and stigmatizing that I call singlism, this is actually–historically speaking–a reasonably good time to be single and/or to have no kids.
Do you know what I think is even better than getting to live single or with no kids? Getting to choose the life you want. We do not have total say in these matters, of course–some aspects of our lives are out of our control, or over-determined by the structural and institutional underpinnings of our society. Nonetheless, I do think it is more possible today than ever before to choose how we want to live, and that includes choices of staying single and not having kids.
About that question I posed in the title of this post," No Kids, No Life? Or, Really Great Life?"– there is no one right answer. It depends on what you want from your life.
Below are links to what I have already written about the topic of not having kids (beyond what I already said in Singled Out). At my personal blog on my website, you can find these links under "Adults with no kids: Naming, shaming, and talking back to the shaming." I'll continue to update that collection with any additional writings.
Childless, Childfree, Something Else? How to Refer to Adults with No Kids
Adults with No Kids: Stereotyping and Stigmatizing
Section on Singlism's Cousin in Singlism book
Family in the Lives of Adults with No Kids
Missing from Our Conversations and Our Activism: Adults with No Kids
More Kids, Please! Attempts to Get There by Shaming and Stigmatizing
Talking Back to Those Who Try to Shame and Stigmatize Adults with No Kids
The collection of writings on adults with no kids is just one of many topical collections that I am maintaining at the "All things single (and more)" blog on my website. You can find them all under the heading "Everything you think you know about the benefits of marrying is wrong: The evidence." Below are all of the topics for which I have collected my relevant writings so far. If there is some other collection/topic you would like to see, just let me know.
Myths about the Benefits of Marrying
Here’s what I know about lying and detecting lies (Obviously, this last one is not about single life)