If your child is having difficulties with impulsive behaviors, please consider trying the following strategies, which may be helpful. 

• Encourage your child to think, "How I will feel afterward (after receiving the consequences of my actions)?"

• Convey that, "What feels good to do right now, may not be good for me later on."

• Disclose, with discretion, about times when you as a parent fell into the impulsivity trap.

• Remind your child about the value of taking deep breaths, counting to ten, taking a break, or healthily distracting oneself from stressful situations (model this yourself and you will have even more credibility).

• "Call out" your child about times when he or she does show self-control.

• Keep a log of when your child shows self control so that you don't overly generalize negative behaviors in your mind or in how you speak to your child or teen.

• Encourage your child to become involved/get re-involved in physical activities and other kinds of healthy interests that allow for blowing off steam.

• Remember that life, to a large extent comes down to healthy self-soothing and problem solving and keep promoting this message to your child or teen.

For further information on controlling impulsivity in children and teens see my books, 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child or 10 Days to a Less Distracted Child (DaCapo Life Long Books) 

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