Five decades ago, a president inspired a nation through his motivating challenge, “ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country.” Since that era, however, our culture has radically shifted and morphed into a world in which we unashamedly focus on self-promotion and self-aggrandizement. Some among us may still believe that “the meek shall inherit the earth,” but a growing number of us believe that everyone deserves their 15 minutes of fame – on a daily or even hourly basis. We once had “skeletons in the closet,” but now those “skeletons” are tickets to attention and notoriety – if only among our closest friends or our Facebook audience. No sordid tale is too foul for sharing with others anymore. And when we make ourselves out to be the hero of a story, it’s all the better!
Are you a drama queen or are the experiences in your life really just that juicy?
Drama Queens (DQs, for short), however, are a very elite group of women and men highly skilled in both engaging and repelling everyone around them. Many of us would take a selfie as we board that once-in-a-lifetime, around-the-world cruise ship, or as we accept our first Oscar or Grammy, or as we squeeze into the frame our new other half of our Facebook “in a relationship” post and make it a “couplesie,”
However, true DQs are going to have photos of the bruises they received when they tripped on their egos as well as the selfies that log their latest trip to the grocery store when the clerk refused to honor their two-year-old coupons for 25 cents off almond milk and toilet paper. If you are beginning to wonder if you have ascended to the role of DQ, then you may want to take the quiz below.
Are YOU a Drama Queen?
Drama Queen Quotient Results
If you answered yes to any of the questions above, it might be time to re-think your perspectives on self-importance and two-way relationships. We all need to be valued, but when our need for attention outweighs our need for healthy relationships, it is time to do some editing of the leading player’s lines. Often, the people surrounding a drama queen in the midst of a soliloquy do not consider themselves to be friends who are engaged by the content of the story, but more likely simply members of a Greek chorus brought in to give appropriate, generic, homogenous responses of “Oh!” or “No!” or “At last!” as required by the script.
Revise the Script and Make Space for New Voices
Drama Queens are astute at crafting a story line in which they are the hero, the villain, the star, and the comic relief all in one tale. If you recognize yourself in the eight questions above, then it is time for you to start crafting a new script in which you allow others in your life to take center stage, to enjoy the limelight, and to receive the adoration that we all so clearly deserve. Even the best shows fold when there are no longer people willing to pay the price to be in attendance.
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