Friendship has been found to be the key to a healthy relationship between partners. Think about a time when you met another couple—from those first moments, you probably were able to guess at the level of affection, respect, and friendship present between the pair. What clues do we all use to detect how a couple feels about one another or the level of satisfaction they found in their relationship? Now, think about your own romantic relationship or marriage—how would it measure up in these areas?
Strangers on a Train?
Have you ever taken a moment to simply observe couples in restaurants? You can tell a lot from their interactions. Are they constantly staring away from each other, or checking their phones? Do they eat without saying a word? If the level of interactive companionship dips toward zero, chances are the relationship isn’t bringing much joy or excitement to either partner.
Watching a pair of good friends is a different story: They interact throughout their shared experiences—chatting and laughing as they arrive at the restaurant, while being seated, reviewing the menu, and definitely while they eat. You can see connection and communication of an extremely engaged and interactive style.
When two people are into each other, romantically or platonically, there is a sense of “togetherness” between them reflecting their intimacy and engagement in the relationship. If you want to get your relationship back on track, treating your partner with the tenderness and kindness you offer your closest friends may be helpful.
Below are a few suggestions that may help you recharge your intimate relationship:
Befriending Your Partner
Check out more on friendships of all types in Friends Forever: How Girls and Women Forge Lasting Relationships.