We can so easily become caught up in the demands of the moment that we lose perspective on the bigger picture of our lives, our souls, or our relationships. What is our life about? What do we hope to realize during the years we have? Where do our relationships fit into that picture? To what extent are they “figure,” and to what extend are they “ground”? Nearly a century ago, the Danish psychologist Edgar Rubin illustrated the reversibility between the two in the classic image of vases or profiles, depending on one’s point of view.
Our intimate relationships pose the same challenge: Can we see them close up, with all their daily chores, delights, challenges, and chatter, as well as from an alternate perspective, focusing on the other view, how they fit into the larger scheme of our life? Neither perspective is “right” or “wrong.” Each has a place and can be welcome in directing the relationship. But sometimes we need to remember the big picture.
What perspectives warrant attention?
How can perspective be addressed?
Why does shifting perspectives show love?
When you think of the big picture of your life, what is your relationship's role? What would your partner say? How does the small picture — daily events, interactions, structure, etc. — affect that big picture?
Copyright 2017 Roni Beth Tower
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