Last week I wrote about the power of imagination. Imagery can provide important information about ourselves and about the relationship we share with someone we love. We can use images in the service of showing love to both ourselves and our loved one through an imagined conversation, an activity closely related to other imagery exercises.
The technique is one of the foundations of Gestalt therapy as Fritz Perls originally described it. It offers a powerful means of integrating unconscious beliefs and expectations and our (often unidentified) feelings that are associated with them. By making the unconscious conscious, we can then examine underlying dynamics and decide if it is time to change them. What better way to sustain a love relationship than by consciously deciding that a change in reaction or priorities may be in order?
What is an Interior Monologue? It can be:
How can engaging in an internal conversation show love?
Why is having an internal conversation a way to show love?
It helps you pause before acting and consider what you are about to do and why. A pause can encourage you to avoid escalating a misunderstanding or an argument or creating a new one.
Have you ever had a conversation with yourself in order to clarify what you are thinking? Feeling? Have you discovered connections between thoughts and feelings through this technique? Have you tried including your imagined loved one in an interior monologue? If you found that difficult, what were the stumbling blocks? What can they tell you about your own resistances?
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