We can show love through our regular relationship rituals, if we are mindful of their role in our closest connections.
I credit some of the rituals that we created while carrying on our two-year transatlantic courtship with helping us make it to the next level in our relationship. Once our romance was launched, we used the fax machine to send “good morning” and “goodnight” messages across the Atlantic over the next two years. (This was 1996.) Because of the six-hour time difference, we each woke up with a greeting from the other, mine to him in Paris, sent before I went to sleep, and his written the next morning, before his lunch break while I was still asleep in Connecticut. Our tacit agreement to honor this meaningful exchange laid the groundwork for the 21 years of trust, surprises, and pleasure that were to follow.
The key to a ritual expressing and expanding love lies in the ability to continue to infuse it with meaning. Empty rituals are empty; they waste a person's time and become annoying. And rituals require periodic examination and re-evaluation to retain their utility.
What makes a meaningful ritual?
How can a ritual show love?
Why a ritual can show love
What rituals are most important to you? How do they bring love to you? Have you ever consciously adapted a ritual to changing circumstances, needs, or participants? Can you remember realizing it was time to either end or radically revise an old ritual?
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