One of the most basic benefits of loving behavior is its ability to provide comfort. An infant cries, and an adult rushes to soothe. A toddler falls, and a parent tends the bloody knee with kisses and Band-Aids. A teenager suffers his or her first relationship rejection, and friends swoop in with mint chocolate chip ice cream and movies to distract from the pain. We do not like to see those we love suffer, even though a certain amount of pain is inevitable as we live our lives.
What are some circumstances when bringing comfort can show love?
How can we provide comfort?
adult may rely on a sensory experience that brought comfort during childhood — the smell of warm apple pie, being enveloped in a warm embrace, being brought to a place of beauty or inspiration. I know that for me a cup of coffee, a visit to an ocean or river, a yoga class or a nature walk will almost always help. Having someone help me get there is a blessing, an act of love when I cannot push myself to brew that cup of java, drive to the nearest waterway, wait for a class at my studio or push myself to ride my bike on the South County Trailway or walk along the Aqueduct.
Why does providing comfort show love?
When did you last provide comfort to someone you loved? What form did it take? Was that a good choice? How did you know how to do it? When did you last receive comfort? Who provided it and how was it provided? What did you learn from your experience?
Copyright 2017 Roni Beth Tower
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