This morning I followed up with a friend who traveled to a medical center to have a specialized test. She was advised that she would need someone to accompany her home. My local hospital has the same rules: regardless of the procedure or the age of the patient, no discharge is permitted without someone to escort you home.
My friend’s husband had not been well and was unable to accompany her. Luckily, her grown daughter was free and, my friend reports, “she was wonderful!” Not only was her availability genuinely useful, it was a way to show her love. She was able to pitch in to transform a potentially anxiety-ridden and unpleasant day into one with balancing blessings. Providing her own company meant even more than her helping by filling an essential need. It was a second way in which she showed love.
As a bonus, when the train carrying mother and daughter arrived at mom’s home station, her husband was waiting for them, carefully holding her favorite milkshake in his hand, and she was delivered from one set of loving arms into a second. Her family had pitched in to soften a potentially stressful experience. They helped to limit the negative impact from the actual moments of the test itself and to help her transition back to the comforts and pleasures of her normal life as quickly as possible.
When someone faces a complex challenge. finding others who show their love by pitching in can bring irreplaceable benefits.
What is pitching in and how can you do it?
Pitching in assumes that a situation needs to be addressed and that more than one person is needed to meet it. Perhaps a task must be completed — cleaning the storage spaces? Scheduling activities? Organizing a party or reunion? Perhaps a challenge faces a loved one — moving to larger (or smaller) quarters? Diagnosing a medical condition?
When was the last time you pitched in on behalf of someone you love? At what point in the process did you become involved? Did the level of intimacy or commitment in your love relationship shift after you pitched in? Can you think of a time when someone pitched in on your behalf? How did you react and respond to their efforts?
Copyright 2017 Roni Beth Tower