My meeting ended a bit sooner than I had expected. If I ran, I could catch the 2:43 train home. Even better, it was an Express. I could make it home to my husband’s arms and smiles a full 85 minutes sooner. I wanted to show him how much I like being with him. And my earlier arrival would be a surprise, a bonus in our lexicon of romance.
“Don’t tell me how much you love me, show me.”
“Don’t listen to what he says, look at what he does.”
“Don’t just talk the talk but walk the walk.”
“Don’t tell me how much you love me, show me how much time you want to spend with me.
What, How and Why does taking the early train show love?
Love means — knowing when your loved one craves pleasure, satisfaction, inspiration, or comfort, even though you may sometimes need to ask what is desired. By paying attention to the changing wants and needs of another person, we are able to attune ourselves to ways in which we can help meet those needs or find ways to encourage their fulfillment without us. In a particularly difficult time in my husband’s life when I was teaching and unable to be around much mid-week, I bought him a (then-new and innovative) digital camera, an intriguing new “toy”. That simple gift and his delight in learning to use it have brought him an activity that has provided comfort, inspiration and joy ever since. I knew instinctively that he would have the patience to study the user manual for this new device and the technology that accompanied it. Had he given me the same gift, I might have been angry, my frustration at the learning curve drowning out, at least temporarily, the pleasures that mastery can permit.
Was there a time when you switched a plan to show love to someone? What message did your flexibility send? How was your choice received? If misunderstood, were you able to correct it?
Copyright 2017 Roni Beth Tower