Last week, in “Recognizing Mistakes”, I introduced some ways in which a close relationship can become derailed. Misunderstandings, poor or missing communications, failures to clearly express wants and needs and to consider ways to meet them can all offer occasions to show love. Taking these opportunities a bit further, we can Accept Responsibility for a challenge within the relationship.
What needs accepting?
How can a person effectively accept responsibility?
Acknowledge and explain the intended outcome of your behavior. Perhaps you had meant the date you put on the calendar to provide a fun respite from a long work week. You did not imagine it might place yet one more demand on your loved one’s already overloaded circuits. Perhaps you had expected to have a car pool when you signed your child up for Little League or after school computer classes. You did not anticipate constant juggling when rain-dates required rearranging your family calendar.
Why accepting responsibility shows love
Effective teamwork requires respect and trust, basic foundations for long-term love. Knowing how to create and sustain a successful partnership offers a good possibility of being able to work together effectively over time, which fuels the cycle of respect-trust-admiration that can fan the flames of affection.
When did you last find yourself wanting to deny responsibility for something you said or did? How did you behave? What was the impact on the relationship? If you could rewind time and redo your behavior, what might you change? How do you imagine the consequences might change? Do you have any ideas of what you might try next time you find yourself in a similar situation?
Copyright 2017 Roni Beth Tower
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