Just Boy Banter or Tween Mean?

Tween boys are particularly prone to running in packs, complete with alpha and beta males. Similar to the queen bee who likes to hold court, alpha males are known to challenge and test the betas who surround them. There is of course a difference between playful teasing and bullying.

She Thinks She’s Hot: Sexual Awareness or Something Else?

It’s not just her clothes you notice. The way she carries herself has also changed. Her walk is now more of a saunter similar to your cat. The way she tosses back her head and laughs, you could swear she seems more like thirty than twelve. Just the other day she seemed to be batting her eyelashes at the college kid across the street when he dropped off a package.

Motivation: Can You Encourage Your Tween to Care?

Tweens are at the age of assertion. This becomes more obvious the older they get. They may start to make more of their own choices about friends and interests. It is the values that their parents impart to them however, that have a great hand in determining these decisions.

Finding Followers: Tweens Cash in on a New Commodity

In the world of social media a new type of currency has been created. Known as tweeps, peeps, friends, or followers, the net worth of an account is based on their number. Today's social media savvy tweens seem to want in on the action.

My Tween’s not a Germaphobe but Ebola Is Freaking Her out

Tweens are at a vulnerable age when their capacity for abstract thinking is just expanding, while their propensity toward magical thinking may still be in play. This can lead to misinterpretations of events and issues. In relation to the topic of ebola specifically, kids may have a misunderstanding of how and where the virus can be contracted.

In the Pursuit of a Passion

During the tween years a subset of kids identifies a passion. This can be both exciting and a bit scary for parents who strive to ensure that their child is well rounded. When a child identifies a true passion, it is quite common for her to immerse herself wholeheartedly in the pursuit of this activity at the expense of all others.

Yes, She Knows: Why Tweens are Sensitive to Secrets

So much of parenting is about appropriately managing information. Parents must learn to strike the balance between telling their kids the truth, and shielding them from the impact of concerns and tensions. Tweens feel everything. They are so sensitive to shifts experienced on the home front. This is why secrets are not easily kept from them.

Tweens and Alcohol: More Aware Than You May Think

It is simply human nature that when we feel like we lack the ability to accomplish a task (such as talking to our kids about this sensitive subject) we are prone to procrastinate. This leaves our tweens open to forming impressions of their own. Through a multitude of media outlets, they are sure to take in information, draw conclusions, and develop specific points of view.

Cell Phone Contemplation: A Snapshot of Life Before & After

A parent’s life before tween possession of a cell phone is comparatively easy. Cell phones represent a potential set of stresses that your parents were not required to manage. There’s sanctity in the solitude of a life without cell phones and social networking. Once you hand your tween the device, there is no turning back.

I’m Ugly, I’m Fat: Self-loathing Among Tweens and Teens

The lack of self-esteem experienced by our youth feels both epidemic and it is viral. Like any common virus it has spread quickly, and appears to be a tough strain, due to it’s vehemence. Just talking to a tween or teen that believes he is ugly, or she is fat is not enough.

She’s Come Undone, or at Least You Have: Understanding 13

My phone has been ringing off the hook these days. I am receiving calls from friends, family, heck; I have even gotten some calls from friends of friends I barely know. At school and community events, sports practices and games, the chatter among the moms and dads seems to be similar. The common denominator, they all have kids who are now 13.

She Said She Wants to Die, but She’ll Kill Me if I Tell

Tweens like teens are subject to the ‘illusion of invulnerability,” the false belief that bad things only happen to other people. On some level a tween may believe that their suicidal friend will not follow through. Often tweens in this situation take on the role of therapist and caretaker. They check in with their friend and carry the burden of her woes on their own backs

The Stepparent Waltz

How do stepparents strike the balance between affirming their authority and not overstepping their bounds? The stepparent waltz can be both difficult and confusing. It is important for spouses to discuss and determine specific roles before the music begins. Too often families establish a dynamic in which the authority of the stepparent waxes and wanes.

It's Not You, Parenting Has Gotten More Complicated

Parenting in the Digital Age has not only changed the way kids can communicate, it has also affected how they think and feel. There is power in numbers. Online forums that cater to adolescent angst offer tweens and teens a way to listen and learn that much of what they think and feel is quite common. The result is kids who seem to be more open about expressing themselves.

She Simply Said "No"

You don’t need pointers on how to parent. If your tween continues to refuse after you have changed your requests into commands, consequences will have to ensue. Sounds like any easy system to enforce, when you are a parent engaged in the thick of such things however, it can be exacerbating and exhausting.

Moms are Containers & Dads are Super Heroes

Moms tend to be the ones to whom their children express their emotions. A bad day at school can translate into being irritable and even berating mom. A good day can equal enthusiastic engagement or gentle joking. When moms become overwhelmed with their children’s outpouring of emotion, especially negative responses, they turn to dads to takeover.

Tween Boys: The Truth About Backyard Bullying

It is no secret that males are physical creatures. From the beginning of human’s time on earth, males have relied on their physical prowess to ensure survival. In their role predominantly as hunters, males were required to put athletic abilities to good use in order to feed their clans.

Understanding Why Queen Bees are Able to Hold Court

Queen bees prey on the feelings of ineptitude and awkwardness that are common to tweens and early adolescents. These girls seemed to be endowed with a natural narcissism that allows them to overcome or perhaps even disavow their own feelings of uncertainty. Queen bees rely on the insecurity of their charges. Perhaps it is the sense of order and structure these girls bring

A Tween Halloween

Caught in the ‘in-between’ years, it may seem less than obvious how to handle some of the issues that can arise in reference to Halloween. The first major question that needs to be quelled perhaps is whether your tween still wants to celebrate Halloween. When surveyed the majority of tweens will tell you with gusto that they are excited about Halloween.

Tweens and Chronic Illness

When children reach their tween years they begin to question the world around them. The influence of peer pressure becomes a powerful motivator. Many tweens feel awkward enough without the added attribute of dealing with a chronic illness.

Simply Shy or Socially Overwhelmed: Defining the Difference

There is a big difference between feeling shy or even socially self-conscious than feeling socially overwhelmed or incompetent. Tweens who feel overwhelmed often present as socially incapacitated. These kids tend to isolate. Their anxiety can lead to more severe reactions such as panic attacks when put in social situations. A socially anxious tween may have difficulty leav

ADHD in Tweens Part II: Tools to Tackle Inattentive Type

Each child is of course an individual with a whole host of strengths and weaknesses. There are however, some general tips you can try to help create the structure and support your disorganized tween requires to ensure success.

ADHD Inattentive Type in Tweens Part I: Diagnosis

Research indicates that it is becoming more common to identify kids with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), inattentive type during the middle school years. While ADHD is more predominant in boys, the inattentive type (aka without hyperactivity-impulsivity) is more common in the subset of girls diagnosed with ADHD.

How to Survive Your Tween's Transition to Middle School

Transitioning from elementary school to middle school can be a tenuous and taxing process especially if you and your tween are ill prepared. What follows is a list of the top ten tips to help parents ensure that their tween’s transition is a smooth one.

The Truth About Tweens and Sex

Take a browse on social networking sites such as Tumblr and Instagram and you may indeed be shocked by the sexually explicit language that abounds in tween posts and comments. We all know however that just because you ‘talk the talk’ does not mean you ‘walk the walk.’ The fact that this type of talk has become more common however, is symbolic.

Why Your Success May Anger and/or Embarrass Your Tween

Of course it is realistic to assume that your child, especially your tween, may not respond to your achievements with the same vehemence and enthusiasm you do when he shines. It may however, be surprising and disappointing if your tween actually answers your achievements with apathy, disdain, annoyance, or even embarrassment.

Are We Raising Tweens Who Could Become Bling Ring Teens?

In 2010 the story of a group of upper-middle class teen burglars hit the news. Assigned the name the Bling Ring by the media, the group of teens were accused of stealing millions from Hollywood’s young elite. How typical were these teens? In a generation of 'Give Me' are we raising tweens who could become Bling Ring Teens? How do we counteract such consequences, can we?

TweenSpeak: A Life in Pictures and Video

Do you find that you can't go anywhere or do anything (like go out for a nice family dinner for example) without your tween snapping photos or streaming video? If you're nodding ‘yes,’ then perhaps you'll find some satisfaction in knowing that you're far from alone.

Tween Boys Get Their Swag On: The Snapback Hat Phenomenon

No one tells your son his traditional baseball cap is uncool, he just knows. How he knows remains a mystery. It seems the mere awareness of this important fashion accessory is a sure sign that he has entered his tween years.

Traveling With Your Tweens Can Be Tricky Business

Vacationing with a tween can be challenging, that is why a little bit of preparation can go a long way. One of the most confusing issues with which you have to contend is that your tween is developing in many area including: cognitively, emotionally, socially and of course physically. The rate at which your tween develops from realm to realm varies from tween to tween.

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