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Relationships
What is This Thing Called Love?

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on June 22, 2015

Poets, songwriters, and earnest lovers have been trying to explain romantic love for thousands of years.

Poets, songwriters, and earnest lovers have been trying to explain romantic love for thousands of years.

Anger
Avoiding Violence

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on June 15, 2015

Studies suggest that most violence is caused by hidden humiliation.

Studies suggest that most violence is caused by hidden humiliation.

Meditation
Why Meditation Is a Great Idea

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on April 28, 2015

This page 1. of a long paper suggests that meditation can help everyone. A well-known division of the self is described: a highly aware but hidden part, and a virtually automated visible part.

This page 1. of a long paper suggests that meditation can help everyone. A well-known division of the self is described: a highly aware but hidden part, and a virtually automated visible part.

Embarrassment
Genuine Pride Does NOT Goeth Before the Fall

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on December 8, 2014

Pride is the opposite of shame (I feel rejected). We can’t get along without it as a part of love. Must we call it PRIDE to make the point?

Pride is the opposite of shame (I feel rejected). We can’t get along without it as a part of love. Must we call it PRIDE to make the point?

Anger
Anger Management

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on December 5, 2014

The next time you are ready to blow your top, try this.

The next time you are ready to blow your top, try this.

Anger
School Killing Sprees

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on September 23, 2014

Modern societies have made many gains based on individualism and emphasis on thought and the material world. But it appears that this combination may have had unfortunate effects on the nature of our social-emotional dealings: widespread alienation and mishandling of emotions. These two faults may be causes of violence.

Modern societies have made many gains based on individualism and emphasis on thought and the material world. But it appears that this combination may have had unfortunate effects on the nature of our social-emotional dealings: widespread alienation and mishandling of emotions. These two faults may be causes of violence.

Fear
The Poetry of Fear

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on August 27, 2014

All emotions are like breathing: they become negative only when obstructed.

All emotions are like breathing: they become negative only when obstructed.

Intuition
Ending Impasse

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on August 14, 2014

How much of research has been creative?

How much of research has been creative?

Anger
Anger Yoga

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on July 28, 2014

Like other emotions, anger is more complex than is usually thought.

Like other emotions, anger is more complex than is usually thought.

Embarrassment
5 Reasons Why Women Should Be Presidents

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on June 27, 2014

Men can often do well in deciding everyday matters, like buying a car or a house, but women possess unique strengths that make them better leaders overall.

Men can often do well in deciding everyday matters, like buying a car or a house, but women possess unique strengths that make them better leaders overall.

Sleep
Have a Good Yawn

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on June 25, 2014

Most people seem to be quite sure they understand yawning, but what if it was our body's natural way of resolving the physical tension associated with illness?

Most people seem to be quite sure they understand yawning, but what if it was our body's natural way of resolving the physical tension associated with illness?

Embarrassment
A Taboo on Sex and Shame?

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on January 2, 2014

There seems to be a taboo on shame in modern societies.

There seems to be a taboo on shame in modern societies.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Treatment of PTSD

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on August 22, 2012

Since suicide rates among on-duty military and veterans keep increasing, a better treatment for PTSD may be needed.

Since suicide rates among on-duty military and veterans keep increasing, a better treatment for PTSD may be needed.

Fear
Why We are Creatures of Routine

Thomas Scheff Ph.D. on August 2, 2011

My practice of meditation has suggested to me a new way of looking at routine.

My practice of meditation has suggested to me a new way of looking at routine.