Stop Anger and Injustice from Hurting YOU: 9 Tips and Know-Bits
Sure, you know life is not fair. But sometimes circumstances feel so unfair it’s difficult for you to let go. You may have persistent feelings of injustice and very good reasons for feeling that way. For instance, you may be challenged with a personal betrayal, a traumatic childhood, or a physical assault. In the case of chronic pain, you may have anger or feelings of injustice regarding an accident that started the pain. Sometimes people feel anger at their own body and its limitations.
Persistent anger and feelings of injustice—directed toward a particular person, circumstance, or yourself— have a steep price tag: they rob you of happiness in the moment, and have negative impacts on your health.
Here’s what you can do to take control and have a better outcome.
Shifting Away From Anger and Injustice
(1) Have compassion for yourself. Recognize that you are doing your best with a difficult situation. The more you focus on compassion, the less room there is for anger.
(2) Decide it’s not worth it. When you find yourself thinking about the injustice of being wronged, remind yourself that by staying focused on injustice and anger, you are unwittingly wronging yourself.
(3) Anger and feelings of injustice beget physical pain. Among people with chronic pain, feelings of injustice and anger are associated with worse medical outcomes and greater pain [1-6]. There may be many different reasons why these emotions have a negative impact on health. Anger causes increased tension in the body and this in turn increases pain. Anger is associated with increased inflammation in the body and this can worsen pain and overall health. Feelings of anger and injustice can keep you focused on what’s wrong and who is to blame for it. Remind yourself that focusing on it gives it more energy.
(4) Choose to be empowered by separating the facts of the situation from your emotions.
“Susan” wrongfully lost her job. She harbored great feelings of injustice and anger at the circumstance and key players involved. She recognized her anger was contaminating her ability to enjoy her life. She worked to release her anger. While Susan is clear that what happened was not fair, she no longer carries the feelings of injustice, a persistent feeling of having been wronged or victimized. This freed her up to focus on what’s up ahead and how she can make her life better.
(5) Seek treatment modalities that melt anger and feelings of injustice. Effective modalities include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), Loving Kindness Meditation, and Compassion Meditation .
(6) The Relaxation Response is an antidote for anger. The relaxation response can effectively counter the physical and emotional “tightening” that happens when we feel anger or injustice. Have a plan to reduce the inner tension and the emotions will neutralize. For a strong dose of relaxation that is portable and easy, download a 20-minute guided relaxation audiofile on your smartphone or iPod and use it regularly.
(8) Have patience with yourself. It may take time for the emotions to lessen. Encourage yourself to soften in each and every moment. Some days will be easier than others; have compassion for yourself as you move through the process.
(9) Don’t stay stuck. If you feel yourself stagnating, confine your focus to countering the physical and emotional tension with relaxation techniques each and every time they come up. Over time you will accumulate greater relaxation in your mind and body, and this will set the foundation for you to explore deeper emotional release work. Working with a professional can help you overcome any barriers and kickstart your freedom from anger and injustice.
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