Let’s face it. Many men are masters at baiting, in that they know how to easily bait you and press your buttons in a way that causes you to take the bait, go off balance, become submissive or defensive and then in that moment of imbalance, vulnerability and reactivity when you can’t think clearly they go for the jugular and with little difficulty find it.
And then my dear lady you are “toast!”
Don’t they know that is no way to treat a lady or certainly motivate or inspire one to want to give their all for you? Apparently not. It’s bad enough that so many men do this, what’s worse and even more outrageous is the delight they take in doing it. When that happens it becomes very difficult to remain a lady, when everything inside you want to tear their heart out.
What to do?
BTW if you can do this all in a playful (not to be confused with ridiculing) manner, not only will you stop (and even retrain) a bully in his tracks, you might even find some of them wanting to become your friend.
Because inside, many of these bullies know they go too far and know they need someone to stop them when they can’t stop themselves. It’s like the mouse taking the thorn out of the lion’s paw.
Of course it then remains to be seen whether or not you would want to be their friend. My counsel to you is to just say, “No,” to their invitation unless they start treating everyone with respect.