How often do you do unto others as you would like them to do unto you? When you expect more of others than they get to expect from you, you not only live by a double standard, you’re a bore and a pain in the rear.  Where are you?*

Scoring: 1 = rarely; 2 = sometimes; 3 = frequently

  1. How often do you say,  “I’m sorry” vs. expect others to say, “I’m sorry”?
  2. How often do you say, “Thank you” vs. expect others to say, “Thank you”?
  3. How often do you say, “I was wrong” vs. expect others to say, “I was wrong”?
  4. How often do you patiently wait for people who are taking too long vs. expect people to patiently wait for you when you are taking too long?
  5. How often do you go out of your way to help someone without their having to ask vs. expect someone to go out of their way to help you without your having to ask?
  6. How often do you give people the benefit of the doubt vs. expect people to give you the benefit of the doubt?
  7. How often do you give others a compliment vs. expect others to give you a    compliment?
  8. How often do you root for others vs. expect others to root for you?
  9. How often do you acknowledge the deeds of others vs. expect others to acknowledge your deeds?
  10. How often do you listen to others vs. expect others to listen to you?
  11. How often do you take responsibility for your actions vs. expect others to take  responsibility for their actions?
  12. How often do you accept no for an answer from others vs. expect others to take no for an answer from you?

Scoring:

12 – 19: There is little to no gold in the rules you follow. You are not only a “dyed in the wool” person who lives by a double standard, you’re “high maintenance” (easy to upset, difficult to please) and a drag.  You tick of people and most people resent you.  If they keep you in their lives, you are either frickin’ brilliant at something, they need something from you that they can’t get from anyone else, they are martyrs or they’re so furious and feel so guilty about feeling close to out of control that they either put up with you or worse give you your way.  Be careful.  Once they wise up and realize how little they get from a relationship with you and gather the courage to cut their losses, you’re toast.

20 - 29: You’re average.  Not bad, not so great.  You can improve and move into the 25 – 30 category and become a valued friend and partner or you can spend too much time with the 12- 17 category people and have them drag you down to their level. It’s really your choice.

30 – 36: You really do practice the golden rule and do onto others as you would have them do onto you. You’re also “low maintenance” (easy to please, difficult to upset) and a dream as a friend or partner.  People may not realize and appreciate you for your great qualities at first, but over time they will.  Be careful not to get involved with people in the 12 – 17 category.  You will be minced meat and over time they will only cause you to become frustrated or sullen.  You may do so by thinking of yourself as the better person, when in reality you are being foolish.

* Of course if you are real gutsy, have the people around you take the DSAT in terms of how they would rate you.  And then if you are really committed to changing for the better, do a gap analysis between their ratings and yours and then ask them what you need to start doing and stop doing so that they view you as practicing the Golden Rule.

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