Do You Know How to Defend Yourself?

Have you ever been attacked, assaulted or hurt by another? Here's five time tested strategies for responding. Which have you used? Which would be good to learn?

Working With the Shadow

What if our yearning for the light is keeping us from what we most long for? What if the healing and treasure we seek is hiding in the shadows?

Why Being Normal Isn't Always Healthy

You may not be "normal" and that could be a good thing! Your beauty, intelligence, and gifts may make you extra-ordinary.

What 3 Common Bad Dreams Could Be Telling You

Creatures with sharp eyes and red pens watch our thoughts, feelings, and actions and invariably conclude we have erred or that we are simply unworthy.

Stress: The Whole Truth

Take it easy, breathe, relax, meditate—conventional advice that assumes that stress is something to relieve. But this is not the whole story. Some stress contains messages that need to be heard; some stress embodies energy that we need to live; and some tensions simply won't be relieved by conventional notions and strategies. Want to find out more?

Paging Dr. Ben Carson: Homophobia Calling

The simple truth—that being gay is an expression of nature’s beauty, truth, and love—is not available to a mind closed by orthodoxy. Instead, our gay sisters and brothers are projected upon and viewed as sick and dangerous. Here's some light to illuminate the shadow of Carson's thinking.

What's the Matter With "All Lives Matter"

Some white folks have responded to the phrase "Black Lives Matter" with the phrase “All Lives Matter.” While this is a seemingly more empowering and diversity affirming response, it is neither. Here's why.

Why We Use Drugs: The Power of Addictive Tendencies

Addictions are a hotel; they are not home but can remind people of home so powerfully that they won’t easily abandon them without knowing where their real home is and how to get there.

Beyond Individual Psychology: How Psychology Shames

Do you see your problems as only your own? Do you see how they are part of a larger family or cultural system? If not, you may be burdened with undeserved shame.

Winning the Battle with Inner Criticism

Does inner criticism shake your confidence, make you feel that you are not beautiful, intelligent, powerful, or even worthy? Here's how to make a real difference in your struggle to love yourself.

Racism: Our Collective Complicity, Denial and Naiveté

To honestly confront the psychological illness of racism, America needs a true mirror, one that reflects our light and our shadow; one that provokes a real moral and spiritual awakening.

We Are Brian Williams

Imagine Brian Williams saying "I tried to feel good about myself but never felt good enough. I constantly criticized myself. I inflated who I was hoping that somehow the reflection back from my audience would overcome my inner diminishment. Now I see that it never did and it never can."

Dr. King’s Dream Through the Lens of White Privilege

Have we fulfilled Dr. King's Dream? Or could those who argue that we now live in a truly post-racial society be wearing the blinders of white privilege?

4 Half Truths About Weight Loss

Why is your weight loss program not working? Here's what you need to know.

4 Barriers to Dialoguing About Race and How to Overcome Them

Talking about race is no easy task. What makes understanding each other so hard? What can you do to make racial dialogue more healing and less painful? Here's what I've learned from working with diverse groups dialoguing about race.

Getting Real: 7 Problems to Becoming Our Authentic Selves

Get real. Be authentic. Just be yourself. Great advice, but what makes it so difficult? What are the forces against arriving on the scene just as you truly are?

6 Reasons Not to Forgive, Not Yet

Forgiving can be sweet. But are there times this counsel can cause pain instead of healing? You better believe it!

Diagnosing Depression In The Wake Of Robin Williams’ Suicide

Lives can be saved; symptoms can be legitimized; shame can can be lifted. But is there a dark side of diagnosing and labeling depression? Read about the pros and cons of diagnosing here.

How to Interpret Dreams of Children and Pregnancy

Have you ever wondered what it means to dream of a pregnancy, an abandoned child, or a newly discovered child? Are you interested in how dreams use these symbols to indicate that it is time to make a change and what the obstacles might be? Are you fascinated by the mysterious intelligence that can be found in your dreams? If so, read on.

Declaring Our Independence

Declaring our independence is not just a one time event. We need to do it regularly in order to free ourselves from inner tyranny, relationship limits and abuses, and cultural barriers. Here's a short psychological reflection on July 4th and a prayer for all.

The American Soul: Race & The Danger of New Age Spirituality

While much wisdom can be found in New Age spirituality, there is a rich tradition of wisdom grown right here on American soil, paid for in blood and tears, and ready made to address the souls, psyches, and dilemmas we face as Americans.

Maya Angelou in Memoriam: An American Elder

In her childhood silence she created an alchemical chamber where the power and absolute beauty of her voice unfolded and flowered – a voice that would change the course of millions.

7 Ways Dreams Enrich Our Lives

We turn to counselors, healers, and gurus for wisdom and direction. We hunger to connect with our deepest feelings; we long to find the path that is ours. Can our dreams be our greatest teacher; the fountain of love and insight we've been looking for?

Mother, Mother Earth: The Need for Safety

Were you safe as a child? Can you keep your children totally safe? Here's a short reflection on Mother's Day and the Earth as mother.

Into the Dark: A Psychology of Soul, Shadow, and Diversity

Tired of hearing about the “5 Keys to Success,” “7 Elements for Being Happy,” or “6 Steps to Healing?" It’s time for more depth, diversity, and soul in our vision of health. It’s time for a psychology with enough heart and love to embrace our wholeness and humanity.

Why We Eat the Way We Do

Do we really understand why we're going on a diet and why we eat the way we do? If we fail to understand and empathize with the reasons why we have issues with food, we're failing to grasp the real problem. So, how do we go beyond the quick diet fix and truly understand our relationship with food?

Understanding Dreams About Animals: Following Our Instincts

We lose touch with our instincts and then dream of them at night in the form of dogs, rats, lions, and bears. Want to learn more about the animals that show up in your dreams? Read on!

Philip Seymour Hoffman & the Shadow of Individual Addiction

In the shadow of individual addiction is our culture of addiction. When we focus only on the individual, we suffer from a malignant projection onto "those addicts" while we remain unconsciously ignorant, contemptuous, condescending, or simply full of pity.

Three Keys to Unlock the Meaning of Your Dreams

What are your dreams telling you? How can you understand their meaning? In my years of teaching people about dreams, I have found three keys to help unlock their wisdom and counsel.

Resolutions, Commitments, And All That Jazz

Why do we fail to keep our resolutions and commitments? Simply put, they are often authored by our egos and not our deeper selves. Here's some common wisdom that may not be helping along with a deeper way of understanding yourself and why you may not be following through with your goals and plans.