Some white folks have responded to the phrase "Black Lives Matter" with the phrase “All Lives Matter.” While this is a seemingly more empowering and diversity affirming response, it is neither. Here's why.
Imagine Brian Williams saying "I tried to feel good about myself but never felt good enough. I constantly criticized myself. I inflated who I was hoping that somehow the reflection back from my audience would overcome my inner diminishment. Now I see that it never did and it never can."
Talking about race is no easy task. What makes understanding each other so hard? What can you do to make racial dialogue more healing and less painful? Here's what I've learned from working with diverse groups dialoguing about race.
Have you ever wondered what it means to dream of a pregnancy, an abandoned child, or a newly discovered child? Are you interested in how dreams use these symbols to indicate that it is time to make a change and what the obstacles might be? Are you fascinated by the mysterious intelligence that can be found in your dreams? If so, read on.
Declaring our independence is not just a one time event. We need to do it regularly in order to free ourselves from inner tyranny, relationship limits and abuses, and cultural barriers. Here's a short psychological reflection on July 4th and a prayer for all.
While much wisdom can be found in New Age spirituality, there is a rich tradition of wisdom grown right here on American soil, paid for in blood and tears, and ready made to address the souls, psyches, and dilemmas we face as Americans.
We turn to counselors, healers, and gurus for wisdom and direction. We hunger to connect with our deepest feelings; we long to find the path that is ours. Can our dreams be our greatest teacher; the fountain of love and insight we've been looking for?
Tired of hearing about the “5 Keys to Success,” “7 Elements for Being Happy,” or “6 Steps to Healing?" It’s time for more depth, diversity, and soul in our vision of health. It’s time for a psychology with enough heart and love to embrace our wholeness and humanity.
Do we really understand why we're going on a diet and why we eat the way we do? If we fail to understand and empathize with the reasons why we have issues with food, we're failing to grasp the real problem. So, how do we go beyond the quick diet fix and truly understand our relationship with food?
In the shadow of individual addiction is our culture of addiction. When we focus only on the individual, we suffer from a malignant projection onto "those addicts" while we remain unconsciously ignorant, contemptuous, condescending, or simply full of pity.
Why do we fail to keep our resolutions and commitments? Simply put, they are often authored by our egos and not our deeper selves. Here's some common wisdom that may not be helping along with a deeper way of understanding yourself and why you may not be following through with your goals and plans.
Dreams are not panaceas or one-line gems to live by; they are as nuanced and diverse as nature. They are a door to a wonderful world of symbol and language, of perspective and insight, of soul and spirit with advice and wisdom crafted specifically for you. What are your dreams telling you?
There is a certain grief that arises when a loved one is no longer mentally “here” and able to communicate in ways that make normal sense. While I understand the impulse to correct them and somehow bring them back to a world in which you are familiar, consider the possibility of entering their world, their “altered state." Here's some ways how.
Despite all the massive efforts, promises made by the $60 billion diet industry, and negatives that get heaped on people who are heavy or obese, the hungers that drive people to eat are even more powerful. Here's the story of one woman's discovery of what that hunger was and how it helped her create a diet program that was right for her.
How can trust be repaired once damaged? How can relationships thrive given the inevitability of breaches and betrayals of trust? How can we build sustainable long-term relationships? Here are some answers.
The way we apply discipline is often accompanied by an attitude of self-correction and chastisement resulting in a cycle of success and failure, over and over. In addition, being more disciplined without regard for our true underlying hungers will rarely be sustainable.