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Dr. Smith is a psychologist in Denver, Colorado and the author of The User's Guide to the Human Mind. His next book, The Women’s Guide to How Men Think, will be available February, 2014.
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Well, it is very true. Naturally, we are in developing process until death. Especially, our thoughts are changed over the period of our lifetime. Sometimes something happens that even change our believes and values. I believe that every human should change other wise he or she may lost or broken in future so that positive changes are essential because by becoming older we realize unexpected realities. Who do I want to be in ten years? I don't know. I have my goals but i think time in future situation may decide who I will be in future.
I am really sick of hearing tattoo hate speech. Not only is it offensive and increasingly tedious in a world in which many or most people have tattoos, but I didn't find much content in this article other than that.
Hate speech? I think it's time you got off the message boards and experienced a bit of real life. I'm pretty sure people with tattoos aren't a protected class.
Let's not forget that for some people heading for that Zumba class is the tiny correction that they need to meet new people, to make that start on their physical self or just to connect with the world in general! Anyone who lives yoga has learnt these things a long, long time ago. Look forward to catching up with you in ten years. Until then.... experience and enjoy!
You can become more knowlegable, even wise. But intelligence is a fixed trait, and unchangable. Sorry.
Hi Anonymous, I beg to differ. Intelligence is malleable and can absolutely be improved. (And reduced.) Here's a rather old piece I wrote on the topic:
We could get into all kinds of arcane discussions about how intelligence is defined, but no matter the definition, we can improve our knowledge, our skills, our memories, and our abilities. Other things, like processing speed and reaction time, decline and there's not much to be done about that, but we can more than compensate for those decreases by increasing information content, wisdom, and tacit knowledge. Even mathematical abilities can be even improved in later years.
Now the hangover has faded I will contemplate the little changes, having already dismissed the normal ‘new year resolutions’ which rarely make it to Feb!
Me twenty years younger. :-)
What a wonderful article!! Not only do we need to look at our future goals and the big picture, we need to think about all the smaller choices we make everyday as we navigate through life. Each encounter we have with another person, and every decision we make, has the ability to fill our lives with future possibilities and moments that create wonderful memories.
Shawn Smith is a licensed psychologist in Denver, Colorado.