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Guyz - I say: We're dum but we're fun. My women friend say: "Well yea, the dum part...."
If a tree falls in the woods and no one is around, is it still the guys' fault?
Women: "of course!"
Apparently, we guys have 1/2 the verbal capabilites of women - most a lot less! The biggest mistake I see my women friends make is they think/act that guys don't feel deeply because we are non-verbal. WRONG!
Guys feel thing VERY deeply but usually express them physically not verbally. Paradoxically, men feel things the most deeply in their early dating and mating years but have the least verbal and social skills. A cruel joke but the driver for most music, poetry, science achievement, dumb risk taking, etc.
In fact new research is that young boys have very strong feelings, many negative, that are squashed.
Guys do really dum things that women would NEVER do. Lighting fire to a car and jumping the Grand Canyon is a kool guy idea. Women think it's crazy -- and it is. It is also mainly to impress them! There could be a whole long post on the dum sexual things guys do -- let's just say whenever the word "hot" comes up -- RUN!!! ......away....
Where women can REALLY help guys is in teaching them to express their feelings BEFORE they jump the Grand Canyon, run to a hot babe, punch a wall, buy a motorcycle/boat/car/another guitar-gun-whatever, have an affair with a married woman/blond at the office/20 yr old, etc. Women with brothers get this -- learn from them gurls.
I tell my guys friends mainly -- DON'T. No, don't even think about it! Of course, guys never listen. Again, Hot = Not!
Guys need to be told things VERY clearly, quickly and simply -- about 100 times. Look at how sport are organized. That's a perfect template for the male brain.
Again, dum but fun. Now, about that hot chick/car/guitar/boat/motorcycle/fiery car jump/extreme sport.....
Do guys like you, who pander to these stupid myths about men think that this will get them laid?
BTW: "dum" is spelled "dumb"
are men really that inept
are men really that inept. and males think considering risk... women security and love... awesome
"Grumpy" was right.....
One of my biggest gripes is the teasing I endured from guys from K-12 and beyond. I hated it.
Because of this, I avoid guys unless I am absolutely sure I am on good terms with them.
Well, sure. All those guys liked you. Guys are the most irritating to people/women they like. Woman are the opposite. Pretty dum, huh?
Not dumb, but true. Women will be sweet to the men they like & bitchy to the men who annoy them. But if a guy we like is bad to us, we will be worse to him & most likely behind his back.
Why is it always okay for criticisms to be levied against men, but "sexist" when criticisms are made about women?
Relax. Your time is coming, as Shawn stated. Why don't you fill out his survey so we know your thoughts also.
Some of the responses to the survey are particularly stupid...a lot of the women who responded don't expect much of men, do they? Guys aren't apes --they're complex human beings. I was disappointed at the lack of variety and the enormous generalities made.
But, I have learned, the hard way to never believe a woman when she says what she wants.
Most guys have jumped through these hoops and still ended up disappointing our women in some other way.
The great lesson in a man's life is to secretly not care what women want -- you'll never hit that moving target.
You can't seriously think I'm going to remember all this stuff that I'm suppose to be to all women? I'm going for a swim now then back to acting like an ape.
What about what women love about women or what men love about men...
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It looks like a laundry list of things women want men to do for them -- not a list of what they like about men.
Which is typical.
Why don't we communicate better? Let's look at how women define communication -- you'll find your answer there.
The article is titled 'What Women Love About Men', but you have to scroll about 60% of the way through before you get past the critical prologue.
What women mainly like about men is that they can criticize them, incessantly - for "their own good", of course.
I like how some men can be so gentle & calm. Brings me peace. And I like men that are simple, what you see is what you get. And the best way a man can win me over, not be afraid to cry! That will just make me want to hug him :)And most attractive quality is when you can see that he would be a great father!
After reading the article, I decided that I agree on most of the suggestions about what women like/dislike about men. However, there is one comment which is totally false for almost every guy I know. The comment was if men want the nagging to stop all they have to do is to help around the house. Every guy I know that helps clean, cook, take care of the kids, etc., does not get a break from the wife or SO. In fact they easily become to expect it as an entitlement. They do not even give a thanks or special treatment for all of the help. These women do not help there husbands fix the car or the leaking sink etc.. It become expected! I help anyway, but I know of some men where this sort of disrespect for their helpful actions has lead to divorce. Then during the divorce the going to be ex-wife writes a declaration stating he never helps and is nothing but scum. My point is there are a lot of men out there who do their share of housework to help their wives and the family in general. Most wives will nag and turn against their man anyone. That is if it suits their needs.
what women like about men and what women want from men are generally completely different. Which brings me to the conclusion that "women want everything, all at once". That's why they apeear to be undecisive most of the time.
Even if it could be provided to some degree, then they would get bored and start demanding different qualities; but I guess this last statement apply for men, too.
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Shawn Smith is a licensed psychologist in Denver, Colorado.