The Power of Resilience
We all can become resilient through the process of engagement and awareness.
Posted Feb 16, 2014
Co-author: Steve Schlozman, MD
A 10 year-old deeply invested in hockey develops juvenile diabetes.
The parents of a 16 year-old find to their horror that their son has taken a fatal overdose.
An 85 year-old woman who is a survivor from Auschwitz, finds that her grandson is being deployed to Afghanistan.
A 35 year-old single-mom who left an abusive relationship with her husband finds out that her 15 year-old has been sexually assaulted at school.
A 16 year old-boy is suddenly dumped by his girlfriend of two years.
Sometimes life deals a bad hand. While some might object to the relative merits of these particular vignettes as lacking equally weighted misfortunes, our goal here is not to rank the relative intensityof lousy events. Our goal, instead, is to accentuate that life itself is fickle, that life ebbs and flows, and that the fortunes and misfortunes that come with being human are in fact part of the human condition.
That’s why we have pop music as well as Dostoyevsky.
The fact is that all have horrible things happen to us. Understandably, these horrible things can potentially overshadow the good. It’s not like the vignettes above are uncommon. They are also, maddeningly, not anyone’s fault.
They just happen.
They key question, then, is not “why” this stuff happens, but how in the world do we manage ourselves when these things occur.\Do we crumble? Do we become depressed or hopeless?
Or do we rally?
Perhaps most important – how do we rally?
These questions of course make us once again visit the concept of resilience. Because some of us seem relentlessly resilient.
How do we understand this? Are we born resilient, or do we build our resilience as we might train for a marathon?
Although we have some answers to these questions, the jury is still out. We’ve only recently as a culture become nationally invested in understanding the phenomena of resilience.
We know, in fact, that resilience is critical to the establishment of health. One might be tempted to say that it is especially critical to the maintenance of mental health, but it seems silly and disingenuous to separate psychic well-being from the rest of the body. A suffering soul suffers throughout. That’s why we’re so interested in understanding how resilience works.
Let’s start by defining the term. Resilience is best understood as an individual’s ability to maintain personal and social stability despite adversity. And the brief anecdotes above sure require some means of maintaining stability.
Further, current research suggests that resilience involves three major components:
1. Biological Attributes: There are innate traits, strengths, and weaknesses with which all kids are born. Some kids roll with adversity. Others will dwell and seem stuck when things go wrong. These traits, therefore, can both hinder and foster resilience.
2. Family and Social Relationships: All children require positive interpersonal attachments in their lives. Family, extended family, and a host of important adults in kids’ lives (coaches, teachers, clergy) help to promote individual integrity, reliance and trust in others in health. These relationships clearly enhance the capacity to withstand ill fortune. Fascinatingly, it’s a two way street. The mentoring adults benefit as much as the kids from these important alliances.
3. Environment: The societal, political, environmental and economic forces around us may enhance or threaten our emotional stability and mental health. Our ability to cope with socio-environmental changes is an extremely important element in the development of resilience. In fact, this is where policy changes have focused most intensely.
Currently, those of us involved in the well being of young people are focusing heavily on these concepts. Our center, The Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds has this as its central mission: We see resilience as a process to be fostered rather than an acquired trait.
How do we do this? Through active engagement and careful awareness.
Engagement refers to the personal relationships with important individuals, groups and communities that foster personal strength. Engagement also implies an attachment to other meaningful experiences in our lives. Creative efforts have long been shown to increase the coping capacities of kids and adults. Where would we be without the healing powers of our music, stories and poetry?
Awareness is the process of increasingly becoming attuned to our emotional strengths, vulnerabilities, biases, and reactions to life events. Mindful attention to these varied forces promotes maximal adaptation and adjustment. Remedies for unhelpful society attributes – stigma, bias, and misinformation – can go a long way towards improving resilience through more accurate awareness.
Most of all, resilience is infectious. We are drawn to others, drawn to their resilience, and we learn from their successes and failures.
We can all become resilient. But resilience is not a solo project. This wouldn’t be the first time that it takes a village.
First publisehed on CommonHealth.org and on the MGH Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds: Developing Resilience through Engagemenr, Awareness and Media (d.r.e.a.m). For more information, see www,pathstodream.org