Here are 5 detours or dead ends between where you are in the pain after a breakup and where you want to be. Keeping these breakup recovery myths in mind will help you remain compassionate with yourself as you go through this difficult process.
When you see a loved one’s weight headed in a physically dangerous direction, you naturally want to help. But weight, for most people, is a touchy subject. Here are do's and don’ts when talking with loved ones about weight.
Unawareness, food as your only pleasure, inability to tolerate difficult feelings, body hate and physiology — by knowing how these 5 factors influence your emotional eating, you can work toward stopping.
In competition, many people lose sight of the real goal. Is the goal to “win” or is the goal to learn, grow, enjoy and perform to the best of your ability, regardless of the winner? In order to meet your goal, do you have to feel better than others?
When you were young, you depended on your caregivers for the sense of being loved, and you learned from your caregivers how to process your feelings. When there are vital things missing from the parenting we received, we tend to look to our romantic partners to make up these losses.
"As I stood on the deck alone, I could hear all the music and laughter from the adults below. The feeling of sadness started to become so intense that I started to get scared. When this happened I immediately ran back down to the party and tried to tell my mom what I had just experienced. She told me I was being negative and said not to think about things like that."
What partners do you pick? Do you choose partners who are cold and distant? Angry and difficult? Refuse to grow up? Unfaithful? Now take your understanding one step further. Instead of just noticing patterns in the partners you choose, look for patterns in the ways your relationships unfold.
As infants, we take in a complete sensory experience of our everyday surroundings and this shapes our perception of normalcy. If, like me, everyday experiences included a giant, deep-voiced, lumberjack man, then that is what we imprinted as normal.
The first gestures of flirtation are communicated so subtly, it's easy to deny them without penalty if one sees the flirtation isn't reciprocated. It's a game played in turns: Only if you return these hints, consciously or unconsciously, can the game of flirtation continue.
So strongly do we believe life is supposed to be elegant that if we are hurt or frustrated or disappointed, we think it must be someone's fault – our partner, our co-workers, ourselves, or even God or the universe must be to blame!