Okay, if you're a bird, there's no time to be subtle when you need to start reproducing right this minute! Just spit it out. But for the rest of us, we could use some help.
Is it possible to compliment very attractive people without sounding like a flatterer? There must be a way.
I live in Hollywood, and there are tons of very pretty people everywhere. It's nice. :) But even out here, sometimes you see someone so beautiful it stops you in your tracks. If it's a man, I usually won't even look at them. I'm afraid they'll see in my face how much I admire them! With women, I'll look at them sideways.
In the Psychology of Beauty, Dr. Dale Archer discusses some of these issues. Although we like to buy products pretty people are holding in advertising, and even like to hire them, beautiful people have their own ups and downs and issues.
I've written about my interest in beauty products, and marketing before. When women put on makeup, they unconsciously show their best side and facial movements to themselves, (although this might not transfer to the face they show to the public!) Beauty products and marketing have taken to addressing consumers directly by writing You are beautiful! Hello, gorgeous! You're worth it! on packaging everywhere.
It must be working.
Scientific American writes, however, that just as we show our best side to our own mirror, we tend to think of ourselves as much better/prettier/skilled than we really are! In fact, they call this article You are Less Beautiful Than You Think.
Most of us think that we are better than we actually are — not just physically, but in every way....In a series of studies, Epley and Whitchurch showed that we see ourselves as better looking than we actually are.
They go on to say: Inflated perceptions of one’s physical appearance is a manifestation of a general phenomenon psychologists call “self-enhancement.”"
Most people believe that they are above average, a statistical impossibility...Of college professors, 94 percent say that they do above-average work.
Ha ha! But no matter how we fool ourselves about our own assets, we are pretty good at judging others, they say. So trust your judgement about beautiful people.
Happify has some excellent tips on giving compliments, and says that the giver is just as blessed as the receiver, and gets self-confidence and self-esteem by complimenting others. And the statements make you into a positive person!
Hey, readers, you've done a terrific job reading this column!
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